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Weapons Of Peace Retention Employed By A Woman   Leave a comment

Thank God who gave The Holy Bible to mankind as a Living Manual. It has the best treasures. Whatever happens to anybody today has a precedence. Others have experienced similar things in the past and the records are there for us to learn lessons.
The four weapons to retain Peace in the home discussed earlier in this blogsite were employed by a woman called Abigail, the wife of Nabal. The man was a rich businessman. The sad thing on record about him is “…but the man was harsh and evil in his doings”. (I Samuel 25:3e). “For he is such a scoundrel that one cannot speak to him.” verse 17e.
LOVE
As “harsh and evil” as the man was in his doings, Abigail cleared to him in love. The main’s business was flourishing. The home was in peace. Things were going on normally in the home. No record of a time when the woman and her husband engaged in hot debate. Please, do not have the wrong but common motion that they did this in secret because the woman was good in handling difficult situations. She loved her husband in the real sense of the word. The harsh and evil man must have wronged her but her “Love covers the multitude of Sins” of the man.
KNOWLEDGE
The woman was a knowledgeable one. She was not ignorant of the kind of man she married for life, a harsh and evil man! Abigail did not dispute it with a servant who described Naba as “…a scoundrel that one cannot speak to…”. She did not accuse him of insurbordination or such. like. She knew the man, Nabal, was rightly described. To ward off evil determined against her household by David, Abigail further displayed her knowledge of the man she married when she said, “Please, let not my lord regard this scoundrel
Nabal. For as his name is, so is he, Nabal is with him! “I Samuel 25:25a-c.
Trust Abigail, “she watches over the ways of her household,
And does not eat the of idleness.” Proverbs 31:27.
Not only this, She had the knowledge of the Lord God of Israel. This Fear of the Lord. She was aware of the truth that
“Whoever rewards evil for good,
Evil will not depart from his house.”
She was told of the good David and his men did for Nabal and his business and how Nabal rewarded them with evil. She took positive steps to reverse the situation.
UNDERSTANDING
I Samuel 25:3 records this about the couples
“The name of the man was Nabal, and
the name of his wife Abigail. And she was a
woman of good understanding and beautiful
appearance; but the man was harsh and evil
in his doings. He was of the house of Caleb.”
Abigail understood everything about Nabal. She understood the ways and doings of a foolishman. She must have come across the book of Proverbs in full or in part. She had a good understanding of how to love and live without contention with a foolish man. She understood that a fool speaks from his foolishness. A fool should not be taken serious.
Do you know what? Abigail knew that David was fighting the battle of the Lord and evil was not found in him. She understood that David was pursued and his life sought. She understood that though David was in troubles presently, “…the Lord will certainly make for my lord (David) an enduring house,”. This came to pass. I Sam 25:28-30.
WISDOM
Abigail applied wisdom to retain Peace in her home. When she received the report of the evid that David determined against Nabal and his household, she did not raise an alarm. She maintained her composure but acted in haste. She did not go to Nabal to scold him. She did not engage in nagging him.she did not invite her friends for gossiping or consultation on what to do. She did not go Nabal’s friends or family members to report his evil doings. Instead she looked inward. She looked within herseld. I think she must have liased with the Lord in prayer to know the right thing to do. She did not set her home on fire in thoughts, words or deeds.
After warding off evil determined against her household, the Holy Bible records the steps of wisdom taken by Abigail,
“Now Abigail went to Nabal, and there he was,
holding a feast in his house, like the feast of a king.
And Nabal’s heart was merry within him, for he was
very drunk, therefore she told him nothing, little or much,
until morning light. So it was, in the morning, when the
wine had gone from Nabal, and his wife had told him
these things, that his heart died within him, and he
became like a stone. “I Samuel 25:36-37.
Can you see the effectiveness and efficiency of wisdom at play? If Abigail could attain this feat, you, as a woman, can do the same. The four weapons worked, are working and will work forever for those who employ them. Is your husband as harsh and evil as Nabal? You can deal will him as Abigail dealt with Nabal using these weapons.
Let the whole world see you putting these weapons into action.Please,employ them.It will work for you.

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Weapon Of Peace Retention In Action By A Woman   Leave a comment

Thank God who gave The Holy Bible to mankind as a Living Manual. It has the best treasures. Whatever happens to anybody today has a precedence. Others have experienced similar things in the past and the records are there for us to learn lessons.
The four weapons to retain Peace in the home discussed earlier in this blogsite were employed by a woman called Abigail, the wife of Nabal. The man was a rich businessman. The sad thing on record about him is “…but the man was harsh and evil in his doings”. (I Samuel 25:3e). “For he is such a scoundrel that one cannot speak to him.” verse 17e.
LOVE
As “harsh and evil” as the man was in his doings, Abigail cleared to him in love. The main’s business was flourishing. The home was in peace. Things were going on normally in the home. No record of a time when the woman and her husband engaged in hot debate. Please, do not have the wrong but common motion that they did this in secret because the woman was good in handling difficult situations. She loved her husband in the real sense of the word. The harsh and evil man must have wronged her but her “Love covers the multitude of Sins” of the man.
KNOWLEDGE
The woman was a knowledgeable one. She was not ignorant of the kind of man she married for life, a harsh and evil man! Abigail did not dispute it with a servant who described Naba as “…a scoundrel that one cannot speak to…”. She did not accuse him of insurbordination or such. like. She knew the man, Nabal, was rightly described. To ward off evil determined against her household by David, Abigail further displayed her knowledge of the man she married when she said, “Please, let not my lord regard this scoundrel
Nabal. For as his name is, so is he, Nabal is with him! “I Samuel 25:25a-c.
Trust Abigail, “she watches over the ways of her household,
And does not eat the of idleness.” Proverbs 31:27.
Not only this, She had the knowledge of the Lord God of Israel. This Fear of the Lord. She was aware of the truth that
“Whoever rewards evil for good,
Evil will not depart from his house.”
She was told of the good David and his men did for Nabal and his business and how Nabal rewarded them with evil. She took positive steps to reverse the situation.
UNDERSTANDING
I Samuel 25:3 records this about the couples
“The name of the man was Nabal, and
the name of his wife Abigail. And she was a
woman of good understanding and beautiful
appearance; but the man was harsh and evil
in his doings. He was of the house of Caleb.”
Abigail understood everything about Nabal. She understood the ways and doings of a foolishman. She must have come across the book of Proverbs in full or in part. She had a good understanding of how to love and live without contention with a foolish man. She understood that a fool speaks from his foolishness. A fool should not be taken serious.
Do you know what? Abigail knew that David was fighting the battle of the Lord and evil was not found in him. She understood that David was pursued and his life sought. She understood that though David was in troubles presently, “…the Lord will certainly make for my lord (David) an enduring house,”. This came to pass. I Sam 25:28-30.
WISDOM
Abigail applied wisdom to retain Peace in her home. When she received the report of the evid that David determined against Nabal and his household, she did not raise an alarm. She maintained her composure but acted in haste. She did not go to Nabal to scold him. She did not engage in nagging him.she did not invite her friends for gossiping or consultation on what to do. She did not go Nabal’s friends or family members to report his evil doings. Instead she looked inward. She looked within herseld. I think she must have liased with the Lord in prayer to know the right thing to do. She did not set her home on fire in thoughts, words or deeds.
After warding off evil determined against her household, the Holy Bible records the steps of wisdom taken by Abigail,
“Now Abigail went to Nabal, and there he was,
holding a feast in his house, like the feast of a king.
And Nabal’s heart was merry within him, for he was
very drunk, therefore she told him nothing, little or much,
until morning light. So it was, in the morning, when the
wine had gone from Nabal, and his wife had told him
these things, that his heart died within him, and he
became like a stone. “I Samuel 25:36-37.
Can you see the effectiveness and efficiency of wisdom at play? If Abigail could attain this feat, you, as a woman, can do the same. The four weapons worked, are working and will work forever for those who employ them. Is your husband as harsh and evil as Nabal? You can deal will him as Abigail dealt with Nabal using these weapons.
Let the whole world see you putting these weapons into action.Please,employ them.It will work for you.

Certificate Of Rejoicing   Leave a comment

Rejoicing!
You will rejoice,
Because you can rejoice
At the end of your labour,
When your effort is success-crowned!

Your invitation cards,
Will soon be sent out,
To relatives,neighbors and friends;
If you seek Peace,
Until you have found Peace!

It is very important to also stress that the result of your search for Peace until you find it is far more of value than you can ever imagine.That is why you must not relent in your effort to seek Peace in your home. A certificate of rejoicing will be divinely issued to you for the whole world to see.Let us enumerate the value as it affects,
One,you.You have joy at the end of your finding your lost piece of coin,ie the peace.No doubt about that.When Peace returns to your home,you will be the first beneficiary.Divine joy will naturally flow into your heart.You will have repeated joy,unceasing joy filling your heart.You will be the first to rejoice after finding it.
Two,your family members.Next after you are the members of your immediate family,nuclear first and the extended next.These set of people are the next to rejoice after you.They are also direct beneficiaries of Peace returning to your home.Peace will turn your nuclear family into the right and appropriate “three-fold cords” that are not easy to break which your home is supposed to be by divine design.
Three,friends and neighbours.When you have found Peace,you can call your friends and neighbors together saying,”Rejoice with me,for I have found the piece(peace) which I lost!” Luke 15:9.
Pay attention to this,these people were not part of your searching for Peace, that is a one-man affair.Even if they were ready to be part of your search team,your refusal to co-operate will render their effort useless.The task of getting Peace is your sole responsibility.People will rejoice with you when your effort is crowned with success and a certificate of rejoicing issued to you.
Please,let me know if you have seen a person or family that invite people to rejoice with them when divorce or separation is taking place.I know about re-marriage taking place,what about you?
Four,the church.The church of God will join you to celebrate.No church member should be happy when separation or divorce takes place.Every Holy Spirit filled church member ought to rejoice when a family is re-united.
This means that your seeking peace until you find it will surely make people of God rejoice you.They must have helplessly shared in your sorrow when the “one piece” was lost.You can make them to rejoice with you,therefore determine to do so by searching for peace UNTIL you find it.
Five,angels.As you,your family members,friemds and neighbors and people of God rejoice,the angels of God will also rejoice with you because an errant person must have had a change of heart.”Likewise,I say to you,there is joy in the presence of the angels of God over one sinner who repents.”Luke 15:10
Do you agree with me that in every home where there is no Peace,someone went astray? Now that the fellow repents and comes back home,the host of heaven will also rejoice.I pray that “May the Lord equip you to restore perfect Peace to your home so that mankind and angels of God will rejoice with you”.
Seek peace,a certificate of rejoicing is waiting for you from above.
NB:Bible quotations are from New King James Version.Words in brackets are added.

Know This Also About ‘SEEK’.(Concluding part)   Leave a comment

6.Everywhere.The search must be done eeverywhere.No place in her life must be spared.He must seek it in every form.She must look for it in every corner of her life.Everywhere includes her physical outlook,kitchen connection and influence,romantic and bed performance,utterance,submission,and so on.
7.Until she finds it.The search for Peace is not to be done for a season.It must be carried out always.It is not a once and for all affair.It must not be lazily searched for.You must not relent in your effort.You must do it until you attain it.Succes is not achieved in the beginning or in the middle,it is at the end.No matter what effort and time it takes search for it UNTIL you attain it.
For example,a reknown Lawyer sat for GCE ‘O’ level seven times before he passed excellently.A Chartered Accountant sat for his final professional examinations twenty-two times before he passed.
These people continued UNTIL they got what mattered to them.Therefore,go and do the same about Peace in your home.
As a woman,if peace of your home is of importance to you it is not attained and /or retained on the platter of gold.You must work hard to attain and retain it.What are your academic qualications? Did you stay at home doing nothing and somebody or some people just walked up to you and gave you all the certificates you have? Did you worked for it?
Therefore,work for peace in your home and a certificate of success will be issued to you for people to see although it may not be in ink and paper.

Posted May 9, 2012 by 4thlink in For Women

Know This Also About “SEEK”   Leave a comment

KNOW THIS ALSO ABOUT ‘SEEK’
It has been stated that ‘to seek’ is one of the weapons that can be used to attain Peace in the home.Let us now consider it from a woman’s angle.
It may not be easily understood what ‘to seek’ means to a woman.Thank God,by design,a woman is a home-maker.Any woman that fails in this God-ordained Ministry is a perfect failure no matter her many achievements.
There were (and there are) women who have lived for other as good examples of competent home-makers.They have successfully managed their homes and succeeded in other spheres of life.
Therefore,it is not a new thing for a woman to combine her home assignments ,call it responsibilities,with her professional demands.
What does ‘seek’ entail? Yes,it entails many things that I will bring under ‘sacrificial duties’.They come in various forms at different times in many places.
Let us consider SEVEN THINGS involved in ‘to seek’ using the story of a woman narrated in Luke 15:8-9 as our guide quoting from Good News For Modern Man.
“Or suppose a woman who has ten silver coins loses
one of them-what does she do? She lights a lamp,
sweeps her house,and looks carefully everywhere
until she finds it.When she finds it,she calls her friends
and neighbours together,’Rejoice witg me,’ she tells them,’for I have found the coin I lost!’ ”
What are your “ten silver coins”? If you tell me you have no “ten silver coins”,I can not be taken aback.Many women found themselves in marriage without any plan for one.Yet,there are a handful of women who knew what marriage entails and stragegically planned for their future homes.Such women have a catalogue of what they want for (and in) their homes.You can NOW compile a list of TEN-MUST-HAVE-THINGS for your home,present or future.One of these must be PEACE.
In the story under consideration,the woman had “ten silver coins”. Those things she valued! She planned and got them.However,one was lost.The lost coin,I will call PEACE.Experience has shown me that there are families who have everything they want but NO PEACE.The woman in the story did not resign to fate.She will not leave it at that.
“What does she do? I am happy,the question is in the present tense.It means any woman can use the same approach to get the desired result.”What does she do?” Seven things! Let us use Good News For Modern Man as our guide.
1. Light a lamp.The woman lights a lamp that she may have light to see clearly where the lost coin is hiding.Not that it needs to to burn well(to produce enough light).Read Exodus 25:35;30:7 and 35:14. Remember that some lamps need oil to produce light.
Do you remember the story of the ten virgins in Matthew25:1-8.It was only the wise woman that went with the bridegroom.In the same way,it is ONLY wise women that stay with their husbands and children.The foolish desert their matrimonial homes
To you,my reader,what is the lamp that you need? Psalm 119:105 provides the answer,
“Your word is a lamp to my feet
And a light to my path.”
You need the word of God.Meditate on the word of God day and night.It will surely guide you to walk in the right path.It will for sure tell you what you can do,no matter your situation.
2.Sweep.She will need to sweep.Sweeping must be done with something-an example is a broom.This means that brooms will be sought first and used.The sweeping will clear every nook and cranny.Note the involvement of brooms in looking for a coin.All because the woman cherished the lost coin.Sweeping will remove any filthy thing that prevents peace from being found.
3.Her house.The sweeping takes place in her house.Not the house of her friend or any other person nearby.HER HOUSE deserves cleaning.Will you agree with me that no woman will blame herself or see her mistake or contribution to her collapsed marriage.At any time, it is the fault of the man or one or all the children.She never make a mistake.
She is perfect.Whereas,no one is perfect except God,the Creator of everything.
That is why the woman needs to search her life to identify and bring out every filthy thing in her life and throw it away.It may be that filthy thing that drives,or covers the coin,peace away.
4. Looks.She must be very serious with it.She must look for it.It is possible to do it casually or absent-mindedly.It must be evident that she looks for it.It must be the ONLY thing she looks for.It must be seen that she is looking for it.
5.Carefully.The ‘looking for’ must be done carefully.It must not be with levity.A search must be carried out with absolute care.She must seek it without an iota of carelessness.I have heard many women whose homes were on fire saying,’Let the man (husband) do whatever he wants,I don’t care’.The search for peace must be carried out absolute care.Peace in the home is not for the carefree women.
To be continued,bear with me.

Three Things To Know About Peace 3 (Part B)   Leave a comment

The second part of the third point on Three Things To Know About Peace is what we are considering in this piece.It has been established that Peace can be attained. To attain peace is one thing,retaining it is entirely another.Remember,it is elusive.If Peace is not retained,it will sneak out.
Also remember that it has been stated earlier in one of the write-ups in this blog that the second leg of a Peaceful Home is ACTION.Now,let us briefly consider four weapons to retain Peace in the home.
WEAPON ONE
The first of the four weapons to retain peace is LOVE.Heh! The value of Love can not be overstressed.It is the foundation for a successful marriage.No other alternative.Love is the pillar for any successful relationship.No wonder then that Jesus Christ stated the golden and greatest commandment thus,
“And you shall love the Lord your God with all your heart,with all your soul,with all your mind.and with all your strength.
You shall love your neighbor as yourself.” Mark 12:30-31
Every genuine love has its root in love for God with all your being.Only then can you love others.It is this kind of love that is further defined in I Corinthians 13 thus:
“Love suffers long and is kind;love does not envy;
love does not parade itself,is not puffed up;does not behave rudely,does not seek its own,is not provoked,
thinks no evil;does not rejoice in iniquity,but rejoices in the truth;bears all things,believes all things,hopes all things,endures all things.
Love never fails…”verses 4-8a
Beloved Reader,a careful reading of these verses will surely disclose that many that claim that they are in love are pure liars.They are very far from it.One thing is sure,any relationship not founded on true love is based on falsehood and is bound to collapse anytime.
A careful watch of a crumbled or crumbling marriage depicts selfishness.Everyone involved seeks his/her own selfish interest.
Either party is ready to end the relationship anytime his/her selfish interest is not met.This is wrong and it is not fit for a home.Philippians 2:4 has this to say:
“Let each of you look out not only for his own interest,but also for the interest of others.”
Love is a powerful weapon to retain Peace in the home.
WEAPON TWO
The next weapon that is needed is knowledge.This has a starting point:
“The fear of the Lord is the
beginning of knowledge.”Proverbs1:7
…And by the fear of the Lord one
departs from evil.”Proverbs16:6c.
Anyone that has knowledge that does not begin this way lacks true knowledge.When it begins from here,it can then grow.For instance,one that fears the Lord will not want to do evil to any member of one’s household.A responsible man/woman will know all the ways of every member of the family.Any behavior from anyone in the home will not catch him/her unawares.It is good to have sufficient knowledge about ‘how-tos’ of many things before venturing into marriage.
WEAPON THREE
Another weapon that must be engaged is understanding.Proverbs 2:2b,3b,4
“Apply your heart to understanding;…
And lift up your voice for understanding,
And seek her as silver,
And search for her as for hidden treasures,…”
How many people do this? How many are interested in understanding the way of the Lord? How many family members understand the way of life and different moods of other members and how to deal them? Everyone loves to dominate others.When you deal with others with understanding,things go on very well.
WEAPON FOUR
The fourth weapon to retain peace is wisdom.There are issues that need to be dealt with in the home every day.When wisdom is employed,all will be well.However,force is the language that many people speak.Force will only suppress emotions,wisdom sooths them.Proverbs 2:6,7 reads:
“For the Lord gives wisdom:
From His mouth come knowledge
and understanding;
He stores up sound wisdom for the
upright,
He is a shield to those who walk
uprightly..
Therefore get wisdom,it is the principal thing!
We are going to consider a woman and a man that employed these weapons successfully in thier homes.Peace reigned supreme.
Therefore,go and employ these weapons;please,pray for them first.

Posted May 3, 2012 by 4thlink in For All