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Melody Of Love   Leave a comment

In the month of Mercy, May,
I did not know what to say.

The Holy Spirit came to help,
To begin a journey I must keep.

On the twenty-seven of the month,
Together we met, Mercy and Truth.

In a place of rejoicing,
Eating, drinking,dancing.

For which animals were killed,
There, righteousness and peace kissed.

Hesitantly, reluctantly, unwillingly,
Exchanges were made hopefully.

Goodness and Mercy ought to follow,
As love and peace may grow.

To flourish like a fruit tree near a river,
And blossom as the tree will never wither.

May the Lord bring His will to pass,
To bind us together to flourish and blossom as each day pass.


Posted October 24, 2012 by 4thlink in Family Verses

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Your Demand Can Be Met ( Part Three)   Leave a comment

In this write-up, I will continue with the meeting of your own demands from your spouse. Don’t forget that in one of the previous articles, I have written that you must have your demand(s).
Failure to do this may spell doom for your home because you will not have any goal to pursue and you’ll be scared by any little challenge. You can easily fall for anything because you have nothing to stand for.
The number three demand of our young sister is what we shall consider here. The third demand from from her husband was friendship.
The young lady knew that she needed a friend. She wanted friendship from a reliable source. She wanted it from a dependable fellow who will be very close to her. She understood that “a friend that is near is better than a brothe that is far”.
To reap the benefits of friendship, the sister (or you) must be prepared to be a friend. You must be a ready-made friend before you can demand friendship. Otherwise, when a sincere friendship is offered to you, it will not be appreciated at all by you. You must understand the words of Proverbs 18:24 that say,
“A man (or woman) who has friends must
himself (herself) be friendly,
But there is a friend who sticks
closer than a brother”.
My beloved reader, are you friendly? Are you a good and sincere friend? Do you fit into these words of Proverbs 27:9-10?
“Ointment and perfume delight the
And the sweetness of a man’s
friend gives delight by hearty
Do not forsake your own friend or
your father’s friend. …”.
Don’t be deceived, whatever you sow is what you’ll reap. If you sow a sincere and faithful friendship, you are bound to reap same.
Be a friend first before you demand friendship from your spouse.
Be a good friend and build your friend up, your spouse. Otherwise, you will destroy him/her and your home. Let me state three three things you must have as a person that wants friendship from your spouse:
1. You must love him/her at all times. Proverbs 17:17a says,
“A friend loves at all times”.
Are you ready to do this?
2. You must be ready to give honest and friendly advice. Proverbs 27:6 says,
“Faithful are the wounds of a friend,
But the kisses of an enemy are
“As iron sharpens iron,
So a man (or woman) sharpens the
countenance of his friend”, Proverbs 27:17.
3. You must prepare to stick to your friend. As contained in Proverbs 27:10a, you must not forsake your friend during the rainy and dry seasons.
Hear what Jesus Christ says in John 15:13,
“Greater love has no one than this,
than to lay down one’s life for his friends”.
Let me state clearly here that failure of couples to be each other’s friends is one of the main reasons there’s a higher rate of divorce these days.
Inability to be friends to each other created a wide room for matrimonial mistrust.
To draw this point home, do you want your marriage partner to be your friend? The fact remains that you must determine to be his/her friend first. Else, if he/she supplies you friendship, you will only exploit him/her to abandon him/her later.
Be ready to meet your own quota of your matrimonial demands.

Posted October 15, 2012 by 4thlink in For All

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Your Demandds Can Be Met (Part two)   Leave a comment

‘It takes two to tango’ remains a true saying. To have a demand is one, having a supply is another. For demand and supply to take place calls for two personalities to be involved. One makes the demand, the other supplies it.
The one that makes the demand must be ready to be supplied. Otherwise, the supply becomes valueless.
Back to our young lady under consideration, ditto any serious person, who have the five demands must have prepared towards receiving and appreciating the supply. If she was not ready, it will mean nothing to her if supplied.
The second on the list of demands by the sister is COMPANIONSHIP. She knows that companionship is needed in her marriage. She knew she needed it by all means, so she knew that demand for this must be made for it from the right fellow with whom she wanted to spend the rest of her life. One thing is clear about her. To have a companion calls for being a companion. If it is offered to any one who does not value it or seem to need it, it will be messed up. Therefore, anyone that will demand companionship must supply it too.
Your copanion(s) says a lot about you. You must share some things in agreement before you decide to have a person as a companion. Before you agree to be always together, there must be some meeting points. To always be near each other, you must have shared norms. Amos 3:3 asks a salient question that you must answer, dear reader.
‘Can two walk together, unless they
are agreed?’
The Psalmist understood, like the sister that demanded companionshh, the attributes of those who were (or should be) his companion. How did he kow?
He knew because he understood what his own attributes were as a companion himself. Read how he describes himself in Psalm 119:63
‘I am a companion of all who
fear you (God),
And of those who keep Your
The Psalmist and all his companions had the same shared values. These are:
1. Fear of God.
2. Keeping God’s precepts.
He was a ready companion with these attributes. He will honor anyone that has these qualities and others will honor him who recognise those qualities in him.
You don’t expect a righteous and upright fellow to be a companion of an evil doer. They walk in different ways. They head for different destinations. They can’t walk together because there is nothing to jointly agree on.
Are you ready to be a companion to have a companion? What are the attributes that you expect your companion to have? Do you also have the same?
Let me state here that the young lady that demanded ‘companionship’ from her suitor was ready to have her spouse as the only companion. She could stay and walk all the rest of her life with him. She wanted a complete man.
She was not ready to have a spouse at home but a companion outside.
She did not want to live a life of confusion where the husband will give an instruction and the companion outside will give another .
My beloved reader, do you want your spouse to be your companion? If ‘yes!’, you must FIRST be ready to be a companion to him/her. Are you ready? Peace of your home is certain, if you do.
Stay blessed and rapturable!

Posted October 1, 2012 by 4thlink in For Mummy

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