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Do Not Be A Handsome Hell.   Leave a comment

Hell, by all definitions and descriptions, is not a good thing to desire or a place to be. Nothing should attract you, or anyone who loves himself, to it. You must avoid it.

How then come A Handsome Hell?

A horrible experience of hell can be experienced on earth, when it is wrapped in a good looking cover.
The outward appearance may looks appealling but underneath is hard life and harrowing experience.

A man may look handsome and wealthy but both attributes can turn out to become Hell Wrappers. Having a relationship with him can be hellish, full of regrets.

Now , let us briefly examine two bad qualities that can turn a handsome and wealthy man into a handsome Hell.
One, a man of great wrath, no matter his handsomeness or wealth, has hell within him and can harm others.
Two, a man no one can talk to. The Scriptures says,
“Do not be wise in your own eyes”,
A wise man sometimes changes his decisions and having many wise counsellors is a blessing to anyone who has them. But not so with anyone nobody can talk to, he will not give room for counsel. His decisions, right or wrong is always final. No second thought!
In both cases, such a man will destroy himself suddenly. Before then , the tendency is there that he will not have access to the joy of life and pleasures in relationships. Not only so, others around him will in turn suffer same fate.

It is not only him who will be destroyed but those around him together. His negative decisions and not being correctable can bring evil on him and his household.

It suffices to say that a man of great wrath and one who cannot be spoken to should not have friends, companions, let alone a wife.


The Holy Bible warns that someone close to an angry man may learn his way and get a snare for himself.

Who wants that?

Abigail will never forget her experience for getting married to her husband, Nabal . He was described thus,
“And there was a man in Ma’on,whose business was in Carmel. The man was
very rich…
Now the name of the man was Nabal…
and he is so ill-natured that one cannot speak to him,” I Sam 25:2-3, 17 Revised Standard Version .

It was Abigail’s wisdom and understanding that prevented all evils determined against Nabal and his household by David.

What happened later?

“And about ten days later the Lord smote
Nabal; and he died. ” I Sam 25:38. RSV

Nabal was a man who was “good” in answering good people roughly ( I Sam 25:14-15), yet, he was rich. His handsomeness, wealth and riches could not prevent ( or help him) from being destroyed suddenly.

Are you also A Handsome Hell? If you must not live a lonely life, or be destroyed suddenly,
* You must realise and acknowledge your helplessness
* Regret your past and present status
* Determine to have a new way of life
* Invite Jesus Christ, to take over your heart , soul and mind and rule it forever.
* Obtain a copy of the Holy Bible that you may read it and obey its instructions
* Join an assembly of brethren where they share the scriptures.

Cease to be a Handsome Hell!
Stay blessed and rapturable, the Lord is coming soon.


Posted April 22, 2015 by 4thlink in For Daddy

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How To Please Your Wife At All Costs   Leave a comment

“But I want you to be without care.
He who is unmarried cares for the things of the Lord- how he may please the Lord.
But he who is married cares about the things of the world- how he may please his wife.” 1 Corinthians 7:32-33.

A common desire of every female, irrespective of her age, is to have a “caring husband”. This is good and worthy of being desired. Any responsible married man must be caring. Any man who is not ready to do this is not prepared to be married.

The Lord made it a law of relationship to His people, Isreal of old, in Exodus 20:10,
“…he shall not diminish her food, her clothing, and her marrriage rights.” New King James Version.

Every matured man (read my article “Am I matured for marrriage?”) must be ready to care for his wife and children in obedience to the Lord.

To be caring is a direct product of love that a man has for his wife. It is true that hardly will one cares for what one does not love. What you do not love, you will not value and will not enjoy your care.

It is important to note that love between couples emanate ONLY from the love they have for the Lord, their Lord. This is LOVE INDEED. Any type that has its offshoot from another source is either lust or evil desire. This will not last for long and its end is disaster.

Now, does pleasing your wife entail doing so AT ALL COST?

No gainsaying the fact that Father Abraham was a lover of his wife, Mother Sarah. The woman was barren for a long period of time. It was sure that the man was not happy at this. He wanted to please his wife but to give a child is beyond his power.

One day, his wife came up with a “good idea” that she hoped would bring some form of happiness into her heart. She then demanded from her husband,
“See now, the Lord has restrained me from bearing children.
Please, go in to my maid; perhaps I shall obtain children by her.” Genesis 16:2 .

Father Abraham, as a caring husband who wanted to please his wife welcomed the “good idea”; so, “…he went in to Hagar, and she conceived…” verse 4.

Within the household, this singular action bred animosity; it also exhibited the imperfect heart of Father Abraham towards his friend, God because the “good idea” was not God’s idea.

Immediately after the going in and conception, the Almighty God complained to him,
“I am Almighty God, walk before Me and be blameless.” Genesis 17:1. New King James Version.

God had purposed to multiply the couple in HIS OWN WAY and TIME. He said to Abraham,
“As for Sarai your wife, you shall not call her name Sarai, but Sarah shall be her name.
And I will bless her and also give you a son by her; then I will bless her, she shall be a mother of nations;
kings of people shall be from her.” Genesis 17:15-16.

At the end of the day, God’s plan came to pass fully.

Do you know that Abraham’s attempt to please his wife created a lasting problem until today? The product (Ishmael) of Abraham and Hagar, the Egyptian maid had this destiny:
“He shall be a wild man,
his hand shall be against every man,
And every man’s hand against him.
And he shall dwell in the presence of all his brethren” Genesis 16:12.

Until now, there are hot spots and restless areas in the world today and certain groups are causing troubles in nations just because sometime ago, a man wanted to please his wife.

It is right and needful to desire and determine to please your wife but do not forget that you must consider it very well if what your wife wants from you will surely, not perhaps, bring her desired joy. Will it also ensure your rightful place before the Almighty God is not shaking?

Finally, will it not bring others into trouble now or in future?
Therefore, consider very well whether or not you must please your wife at all costs.
Stay blessed and rapturable; the Lord is coming soon.

Posted March 29, 2015 by 4thlink in For Daddy

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An Evil Act Of Fathers.   Leave a comment

For the purpose of this piece, A FATHER include:
1. A married man who is blessed with a female child.
2. A man, married or single, who, by any means, happened to be the first male a young girl has to be close to.

Everyday, people go to marrriage registry to pledge their love to each other “until death parts us”. This same “pair” of people still go to courts of law to tell Judges “We want you to dissolve our marrriage because we cannot continue as husband and wife.”. This happens soon or late.

What a great contradiction!

This was (and still is) not God’s plan to institute marrriage.

One unassailable but little known truth is that fathers contribution to this unpleasant scenario is great. Fathers are not aware that they directly destroy the future homes of their daughters.

Do you want to know how?

Every woman is expected to be a home builder. A woman does this with her wisdom. Now, there are lots a young girl needs to know about a man. This must begin from her father’s house.

Do you know that first impression lasts long? The first man in a woman’s life, in most cases, is her father. Whatever knowledge she gathers from him will form an initial and lasting impression in her heart. How a young girl perceives her father determines her perception of other men, most especially her husband, in the future.

If “first impression lasts long”, which impression do you give your daughter(s)?

A man whose wife gave birth to a beautiful girl once hissed and left the maternity home in rage when he was so informed. He was not happy and hated the wife for it. What a mess!

Do you think this father will love the little girl as she grew up? The answer nay be “No!”. If the girl fails to experience a father’s love, do you think she will truly trust any man’s love in the future?

It will be easier for such any woman in this category to leave her husband on any flimsy excuse. In the first instance, such go into marriage for other reasons rather than love.

Brutal fathers wound the hearts if their daughters, thus making them potential haters of men, ditto their husbands.

This type of fathers deny their daughters necessary “masculine training” required to weather the storms of their lives, most especially those of their homes. They make them available for “old women fables” that sometimes work against their success in future.

Are you one of the brutal fathers? Are you unkind to your daughter(s)? A you like a lion to her? Can you be approached by her for anything?

Today, you must have a complete change of attitude. You must not indirectly destroy the future joy of a family that your daughter ought to build.

I love an old man’s statement. I met him at an immigration office in 2013. He had many daughters and a lone son. He confidently said, “I trained my daughters like men. There is nothing they cannot do and they can easily adapt to any situation.”.

That is a father fir you!

Therefore, make yourself available to your daughter(s). Speak kindly to her. Cherish her. Do not deny her the joy from a father which you can give. Your position in her life is crucial as the first man she grew up to know in her life. Begin to help build your daughter’s future home today. Let her have confidence in you. Permit her to to have gut to confide in you. Allow her to trust you.

If you do not treat your daughter like a Princess, it may be a spill over from your past. Perhaps, your mother did not treat you like a Prince. The ill-treatment must come to an end. Please do this.

Do you want your heart to be healed of past childhood wounds? Please, visit regularly, if possible, follow my blog, You will not regret doing so. This is where I share the secrets of a peaceful home.
Be informed or reminded that the Lord Jesus Christ’s coming soon. Stay blessed and rapturable.

Posted February 26, 2015 by 4thlink in For Daddy

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Weapons Of Peace Retention Employed By A Man(concluding part)   Leave a comment

Finally,Sarai was restored to her husband (Abram). No peace was lost between the husband and wife and members of their household. The excursion that was not less than a year which Sarai went did not give room for peace to sneak away.
Thank to God,the words of Proverbs 3:19-20 told us that God employed these weapons,let us read about the last three,
‘The Lord by wisdom founded the
By understanding He established
the heavens;
By His knowledge the depths were
broken up;
And clouds drop down the dew.’
About the first weapon,we read that our Lord is a God of love.A lover indeed. In John 3:16,we read
‘For God so loved the world that He gave His
only begotten Son,that whoever believes in Him
should not perish but have everlasting life.’
Sir,as a man that will seek peace in his own home,will you go,pray and employ all these unfailing weapons?
‘Happy is the man who finds
And the man who gains
Length of days is in her right hand,
In her left hand riches and honor.
Her ways are ways of pleasantness,
And all her paths are peace.
She is a tree of life to those who
take hold of her,
And happy are all who retain her.’ Proverbs 3:13,16-18
Therefore,become a man that employs weapons of peace retention now and forever. May you reap all the rewards.
NB:Scripture quotations are from New King James Version

Posted June 4, 2012 by 4thlink in For Daddy