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You Can Be A Happy Woman   Leave a comment

On May 22, 2015, a woman Minister of God referred to men as containers bought by a woman whose contents are not known at the time of purchase. On arrival at home, opening of the containers reaveal the true contents. She said some women found beverages in their containers. Some women found sand in theirs; while many women found granite. Discoveries of women after marriage differ in respect of the true contents of their men.

This is true.

Are you surprised? I don’t know if you will agree with me that there is no one formula for marrriage. What do I mean? Each marriage has what will make it work. Thank God, the Scriptures has the formulae for ALL MARRRIAGES as revealed by the Holy Spirit. For a marriage to be successful calls for hard work.

You must work hard to make your marrriage a success.

Do you believe that each content of every container has its use and value? Do you agree that each has its chains of benefits? To derive any benefit from the contents of a container calls for diligence.

For instance, from the sister’s analogy, if you find beverages in your container, you need to take certain steps to derive maximum benefits from it. You need to prepare it before taking it. At this point, I don’t want to burden you with the steps you will take but think for a few minutes on “If I receive a tin of beverages, how do I take it? What steps will I take?”.

Those who find lemon in their containers do not need to go about complaining to whoever care to listen about their findings. They need to sit down and think deeply on how to make the best use of it. Any woman who found lemon in her containers can easily make lemonade out of them. She can enjoy this with others.

The functions of beverages is entirely different from that of lemon. Yet, both are of value to their owners. Do you understand this?

That is why “A happy woman is not the one who married the best man, it is the woman who makes the best of the one she married.” is a supporter of what the woman Minister said as quoted earlier.

Do you know how you can make the best out of your man? There is a key disclosed in Proverbs 14:1?
“The wise woman builds her house,
But the foolish pulls it down with her hands.”
You need wisdom to make the best use of the contents of your man. WISDOM! It is the principal thing.

Relying on force, murmuring, complaining, strong attacks, craftiness and other flesh based devices cannot be of any positive help to you but wisdom.

How do you acquire the required wisdom to handle your man? James 1:5 teaches that, “If any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask God who gives to all liberally and without reproach, and it will be given to him.”

Do you want to be happy in your home? Searching again for “an ideal man” is not the next line of action but asking God for the wisdom to turn your man to the “Ideal Man” you desire. Who knows? Your getting married to your man may be the beginning of your ministry or it may be your major ministry for which you will receive fron the Lord,
“Well done, good and faithful servant; …enter into the joy of your Lord.”
Stay blessed abduction rapturable because the Lord is coming.
Scriptures quoted are from New King James Version.


How To Please Your Husband At All Costs   Leave a comment

“There is a difference between a wife and a virgin.
The unmarried woman cares about the things of the Lord, that she may be holy both in body and in spirit.
But she who is married cares about the things of the world- how she may please her husband” 1 Corinthians 7:34.

The truth about every relationship is that you must sow what you want to reap. Every woman with a sound mind will appreciate a caring husband. Therefore, if you, as a woman, want to be cared for by your man, please, you must be caring too.
If your belief is that it is YOU only who must be cared for, your unknown name until now is “Love Exploiter”.

This is recorded about a woman like you,
“Who can find a virtuous wife?
For her worth is far above rubbies,
The heart of her husband safely trusts her;
So he will have no lack of gain.
She does him good and not evil
All the days of her life.” Proverbs 31:10-12. Nkjv.

That is a woman who pleased her husband in her own time.

One thing to note about the husband of this woman is that it is not on record that he had any inordinate ambitions or that he was covetous. So he could be pleased without any wrongdoing.

This was the undoing of a queen and a king in ancient Israel. Their names were king Ahab and queen Jezebel.

Jezebel really loved her husband and would not hesitate to do anything to please him. However, this king over God’s people was not satisfied with what he had. He was after the property of another man, Naboth, so he approached him,
“Give me your vineyard, that I may have it for a vegetable garden, because it is near, next to my house; for it I will give you a vineyard better than it. Or if it seems good to you, I will give you its worth in money.” 1 Kings 21:2.

Naboth, however, refused to grant that request to preserve his “father’s inheritance”.

King Ahab went home disappointed; he could not think of the next line of action .

When Qeen Jezebel heard, because she hated to see her man wearing a sad countenance, so she encouraged him,
“You exercise authority over Israel! Arise, eat food, and let your heart be cheerful, I will give you the vineyard of Naboth the Jezreelite.” 1 Kings 21:7.

As an extremist who wanted to please her husband, she went to arrange how Naboth would be eliminated using her authority as a queen. The murder arrangement was effectively carried out because he was killed by the queen’s agents.

Then the King took over the vineyard of the dead man.

What was the final judgment over the couple? Prophet Elijah revealed the heart of God thus,
“Have you murdered and taken possession?
Thus says the Lord: ‘ In the place where dogs licked the blood of Naboth, dogs shall lick your blood even yours.
The dogs shall eat Jezebel by the wall of Jezreel.’ ” 1 Kings 21:19, 23. Nkjv.

That was the end of those couple. One could not help the other on the day of reckoning.

As much as you must be loving, caring and please your man, do not forget that you are responsible to a higher authority. There are so many ways to please your man without killing, wounding, stealing or doing any wrong; exploit them.

Do not heap up guilt and condemnation! You will give account of all your thoughts, words and deeds to your Maker, who alone can kill and make alive. Will you not fear Him? Care for your man in a way that you will not sin against God.

Stay blessed and rapturable ; the Lord is coming soon.
Scriptures quoted are from New King James Version of the Holy Bible.

Posted April 4, 2015 by 4thlink in For Mummy

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An Evil Act Of Mothers.   Leave a comment

Note that for the purpose of this article, A MOTHER includes
1. A married woman who is blessed with a male child;
2. Any lady who, by circumstances, happens to be the first woman in a male child’s life.

Nowadays, marrriages are contracted on daily basis and they crash so soon. It sad to note that marrriages expire within a short period of being contracted.

There is story of a marrriage that lasted twenty-seven days. It was a wedding that attracted “movers and shakers” in the society.

On bitter pill that a mother will not want to swallow is that many times, they are the architects of their children’s marital misfortune(s).

As a mother, is your heart wounded with these words? Thar is the truth!

A mother in many ways obstruct the success of their children’s marrriages. Let me focus on the early life of your male children.

Let me start with a grandma’s statement many years ago. Her son wanted one of his male children to live with her so that she would not suffer from loneliness. The woman’s reply was,
“I don’t want a male dog to live with me. If you have interest in allowing any of your children to live with me, let the person be a girl. If I take care of a male dog, he will not come back to reward me later.”

What do you think?

So many mothers are this grandma. They never see anything good in their male children. They do not fail to demonstrate there perfect hatred for them by all means.

About ten years ago, I heard about a confessional statement of a mother to a great man of God.

What was it?

She said to her son, the first of her twin children,
“Taiwo, I want you to forgive me today. My sin was that on the day I gave birth to you as twin.brothers, I was sad to hear that you were both boys because I was expecting a girl . If I had got the opportunity, I would have killed both of you at birth. I demand your forgiveness in that your wife is nore than any blood daughter. I receive from her more affection than I hope for from any daughter.”

That is one thing.

Another thing I want to emphasise here is that it is possible for you to ruin your son’s marriage before he is matured for it.

A truth you must know is that you are the first woman you son knows. You are the first female to interact with closely. His heart is plain and clean, so what you write on that heart will remain indelible forever. The possibility is thar he will see every woman in your light. He will perceive every female as you are.

If you allow him to grow up to know you as his enemy, it will be very difficult for any woman to convince him that she loves him.

Not only this, he will not invest his true love in any female. He may appear “as if” he is in love with a lady, the old wound continues to prevent him from doing so genuinely. When he appears to do so, it becomes a conditional love.

He loves for an ulterior motive like to have a bed mate, a breeding machine, and so on.

After some time, it will be easier for the devil to carry out his evil work in this type of marrriage. That is one of the reasons a twenty or more than thirty years old marriage comes to an end abruptly. The man can easily conclude, “I have got what I want from her. Let her go in the way she likes.” I have heard many such men saying, “If not for child bearing, who needs a woman!”

Can you see that it is an evil act for a mother to hate her son? Do you understand the gravity of not loving a son ?

To buttress this, let me give you an assignment:
1. Do you enjoy your husband’s unreserved and unconditional love? Or do you miss it?

Probe into the heart of your man to know his relationship with his mother, remember who is a mother in this piece.

You are now either a beneficiary or a victim of a previous relationship.

2. Please, think deeply about this from a woman,
“A man who treats his wife as a Princess must have been raised by a Queen.”
Are you a Queen raising men who will treat their wives as Princesses?

Who do you want to be? A builder or destroyer? The options are before you, choose right.
Remember, the Lord Jesus is coming soon with rewards. Prepare to meet Hin.

Posted February 23, 2015 by 4thlink in For Mummy

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Are You Married To A Man Or…?   Leave a comment

To start with, I sincerely apologize for not updating this blog for sometime now. The Spirit was willing but the flesh was weak. Please, remember me in your prayers. There are interesting topics I love to share with you. I have now resumed, the Holy Spirit will help me to meet you here at least once a week.

Let us begin with this:

Are You Married To A Man Or..?

“Sometimes, when you see how caring another woman’s husband is, you may be tempted to poison your own.”

This was a frightening statement from a woman in August 2014. I never expected a statement like this from her.


She is an attendee in her church programs. She appears as a Christian by all standards.

This woman became ill and her friend’s husband, a medical practitioner took care of her. This man used to call her to know her state of her health regularly. She received one of such calls when she came to me for counselling. After the call, she made that statement.

At that point, I remembered the conversations between Jesus Christ and a Samarian woman near Jacob’s well in John Chapter four.

Jesus said, “Go, call your husband and come here.”
She answered,”I have no husband.”

“You have well said, ‘I have no husband’ for you have had five husbands, and the one whom you now have is not your husband; in that you spoke truly.” John 4:16-18.

Now can the woman who said “one may be tempted to poison one’s husband” be said to be married to the man for whom she has five children?

Now let me mention seven reasons (among others) a woman may settle for a man to live with and not a husband.

Death of a woman’s loved husband may rob her of her future joy from a new home. She may permanently close the door of her heart to avoid another wound.

The two daughters of Lot agreed that “There is no man on earth”.
This is a common mistake whereas God has alternatives.

Divorce is another factor that can make a woman to live with a man who is not her husband. A disappointed woman may decide wrongly not to love any man again “to be on the safe side”. Yet she may live with a man for the sake of living together only.

Past waywardness for which a woman now pays the penalty. What do I mean? Many women have lost those who really loved them elope with a man in money or position.
Many are later abandoned to care for themselves. At this point, they go for “the next available” man and settle with same.

Childlessness that leads to a change of husband. When a woman is too anxious to have children, she may move from one man to another.
At the end of the day, she may live the rest of her life with a man who is not her husband.

In certain cultures and religions, forced marrriage takes place. A father or mother may give his/her daughter to a man as wife against her will.

No matter what she is given materially, she will not be satisfied. As an “obedient” child, she may live with the man whereas she married him against her will.

Another thing is she may leave the man to live with another next available man to protest her forced marrriage.

Covetousness is another factor that can lead a woman to live with a man who is not her husband. This happens when a woman cannot tame her needs/wants, especially if she loves money and other material things.
A woman can therefore live with a man for material gains when they are not husband and wife.

Marrriage through deceit is another factor that can make a woman to live with a man who is not her husband. If a woman is lured into marrriage, she may opt to stay with the man.

The missing core issue in this matter is LOVE. This is the key factor that establishes a man and a woman as husband and wife.

However, no matter your circumstances, you must not fail to demonstrate God’s love to your fellow man. Not only this, you have no right to claim another man’s life. It is a sin against God and humanity.
Turn to your God… Pray to Him. Tell Him to heal you of all wounds and to give you His better alternative. You should be ready to cooperate and accept His new provisions.
Stay blessed and rapturable because the Lord is coming soon.

Posted December 5, 2014 by 4thlink in For Mummy

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My Baby’s Food (In honor of MoyinOluwa and every child.)   1 comment

My baby cries!
Where’s my baby’s food?

A ready made food
Prepared well in advance,
Before she comes.

A food from divine kitchen
Of the Most High God.

Best, balanced, beloved!
Sure, safe, sealed!

My baby cries!
Where is my baby’s food?

She needs the fruits,
Fully filled, freely given,
Containing the juice.

She needs the juice
In the fruits from her
Father’s garden.

My baby cries!
Where is my baby’s food?

She needs the wine,
Her Father brews,
For her benefits.

It is not for sale,
Nor it is for hire!
But for my baby only.

It is not in the stores
Or in thd supermarket.

It is not in the mall,
And not in the hall.

It is there with the mother,
I will take her to the mother!
NB: Mothers breastfeed your children and tell others.

Posted November 6, 2012 by 4thlink in For Mummy

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Your Demandds Can Be Met (Part two)   Leave a comment

‘It takes two to tango’ remains a true saying. To have a demand is one, having a supply is another. For demand and supply to take place calls for two personalities to be involved. One makes the demand, the other supplies it.
The one that makes the demand must be ready to be supplied. Otherwise, the supply becomes valueless.
Back to our young lady under consideration, ditto any serious person, who have the five demands must have prepared towards receiving and appreciating the supply. If she was not ready, it will mean nothing to her if supplied.
The second on the list of demands by the sister is COMPANIONSHIP. She knows that companionship is needed in her marriage. She knew she needed it by all means, so she knew that demand for this must be made for it from the right fellow with whom she wanted to spend the rest of her life. One thing is clear about her. To have a companion calls for being a companion. If it is offered to any one who does not value it or seem to need it, it will be messed up. Therefore, anyone that will demand companionship must supply it too.
Your copanion(s) says a lot about you. You must share some things in agreement before you decide to have a person as a companion. Before you agree to be always together, there must be some meeting points. To always be near each other, you must have shared norms. Amos 3:3 asks a salient question that you must answer, dear reader.
‘Can two walk together, unless they
are agreed?’
The Psalmist understood, like the sister that demanded companionshh, the attributes of those who were (or should be) his companion. How did he kow?
He knew because he understood what his own attributes were as a companion himself. Read how he describes himself in Psalm 119:63
‘I am a companion of all who
fear you (God),
And of those who keep Your
The Psalmist and all his companions had the same shared values. These are:
1. Fear of God.
2. Keeping God’s precepts.
He was a ready companion with these attributes. He will honor anyone that has these qualities and others will honor him who recognise those qualities in him.
You don’t expect a righteous and upright fellow to be a companion of an evil doer. They walk in different ways. They head for different destinations. They can’t walk together because there is nothing to jointly agree on.
Are you ready to be a companion to have a companion? What are the attributes that you expect your companion to have? Do you also have the same?
Let me state here that the young lady that demanded ‘companionship’ from her suitor was ready to have her spouse as the only companion. She could stay and walk all the rest of her life with him. She wanted a complete man.
She was not ready to have a spouse at home but a companion outside.
She did not want to live a life of confusion where the husband will give an instruction and the companion outside will give another .
My beloved reader, do you want your spouse to be your companion? If ‘yes!’, you must FIRST be ready to be a companion to him/her. Are you ready? Peace of your home is certain, if you do.
Stay blessed and rapturable!

Posted October 1, 2012 by 4thlink in For Mummy

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Your Demand Can Be Met. (Part One)   Leave a comment

In the last article, we considered the Five Demands Of A Young Lady. For her, and her household, everything has been working well. She is now ‘success personified’. Do you have your own demands? The young lady seemed to make it simple, do you want to be a success? Be prepared to have all your Demands supplied.
What are the preparations to make? Using the young lady as a case study, we shall discuss her demands one after the other and what made them met.
She wanted to marry a man who was ready to be her father. Fine! Anyone that will make this demand must be prepared to be a child, in this case, a daughter. She must be prepared to take instructions.
Who wants a disobedient child? No one! Obedience is what will make a demand for a father to be met.
To the Ephesian children, and to every child, Apostle Paul has this to say,
‘1 Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right.
2 “Honor your father and mother”, which is the first commandment with a promise:
3″that it may be well with you and you may live long on the earth.” Ephesians 6:1-3.
The young lady in question must have come across, meditate on and understand what these verses mean. She must have vowed to live a life of a daughter to have a man who will be a father as a spouse.
Note what the sister had prepared to do:
1. She had prepared to obey the man as a father according to Godly instructions.
2. She knew what was right and was prepared to do exactly that.
3. She was prepared to honor her father.
She had a perfect understanding of what awaits her for doing this. What are the benefits? Two were mentioned in verse three thus:
1. That it may be well with her.
2. That she may live long on the earth. A great secret of longevity!
So many single mothers run the risk of premature death as a result of emotional upheaval, that are sometimes avoidable.
Failure of any woman that demands a man who will be a father to her to know these rudiments and abide by them will surely create a loopehole, that can not be filled. So many women want to live well and long but are not ready to sow the seed that leads to reaping what they want abundantly.
The peaceful home you want is nearby if you are ready to be an obedient child. Every child that obeys her father can be confident of her father’s unfailing love, protection anytime and anywhere.
Do you want your husband to be a father to you? Be prepared to obey him! Proverbs 4:1-2 read,
‘Hear, my children,the instruction of a father,
And give attention to
know understanding;
For I give you good doctrine:
Do not forsake my law.’
Therefore, obey your father-husband in the Lord. Do not forsake his law and doctrines according to the will of God.
NB: Every Bible verse is taken from New King James Version.

Posted August 26, 2012 by 4thlink in For Mummy

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