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My Daddy?   Leave a comment

My Daddy
On October 2, 2013, I attended a prayer meeting with my sister. When it was over, she asked me what the relationship between a man and a woman I know very well was. My reply was ” They are husband and wife.”

She shook her head saying, “When the man left the meeting briefly, maybe without informing her, she was asking everyone around her, ‘Where’s my daddy? Where has my daddy gone to?’ ”

“What’s strange in that?” I inquired.

She replied, “I know about a woman calling her husband ‘Daddy’ but NOT ‘My daddy’ ”

Beloved reader, do you recognise the differences between “Daddy”, “Our Daddy” and “My Daddy”? A closer look will reveal that “My Daddy” shows more intimacy than others.

Let me say that it is a mark of respect for her husband. It is a sign of obedience to the Word of God. Apostle Paul instructed the Ephesian church, and today’s church too, that

“Nevertheless let each one of you in particular so love his wife as himself, AND LET THE WIFE SEE THAT SHE RESPECTS HER HUSBAND.” (capitals added) Ephesians 5:33.

Respect guarantees love. I don’t know how much you’ll love any fellow who disrespects you. God, the creator of all things sent a message to Eli, the Priest in Israel of old,

“Far be it from Me; for those who honor Me I will honor, and those who despise Me shall be lightly esteemed.” (1Samuel 3:30).

Do all within your means to respect your husband.

“My Daddy” is less than calling your husband “My lord”. Still, it is on record in the Scriptures that Sarah called her husband, Abraham, “My lord”.(1 Peter 3:6)

Therefore, go and respect your husband. It is sure you will win more of his LOVE.

Posted October 9, 2013 by 4thlink in For Women

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Give It On Time   Leave a comment

What you have, Give It As At When Due.

I went to a mini market some days ago to buy a few things. At the gate, a young lady sat on a wooden bench receiving a call:
Caller: Has your husband come back to you and your children?

Young Lady: I don’t expect him to return to me; mummy, your son has eaten palatable soup somewhere….

I guessed she discussed with her mother-in-law.

The question now is “Why should a woman allow another woman to snatch her husband with the same thing she possesses or can possess?

I think every married woman ought to be a “Food Specialist” as far as her home is concerned. She should be able to keep her man and other members of her household with her fingers.

Are you a Food Specialist in your home? You can be because you must be!

Posted October 1, 2013 by 4thlink in For Women

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Are You A Stranger To Yourself?   Leave a comment

A Professor of Mathematics discovered his love for the subject early in life.

He “invented” a formula to solve an equation which was used as a student and taught his students for many years.

One strange thing about him was: he never saw any of his own manuscripts as a student. Also no one ever complained about his formula; so he was happy about it. In the last year of his career, he condemned his own formulated formula when he gave a student zero using that formula for the same equation.

What will you say has happened to him and (or) his formula?

This was a perfect description of Clara, a grandma with five daughters and a son. Her BOTH (Baby Of The House), last born, was only ten years old.

One cool Sunday afternoon, when service was just over, Clara, the wife of a Clergyman, was at home planning what she and her household would eat. About six visitors were in their sitting room with Chinedu reciting some of the Rhymes and Poems she was taught in school.

Suddenly, Clara emerged from her livingroom and walked toward her daughter, “Will you keep quiet?” she retorted, folding her left hand fingers and placing them on her waist; her right index finger placed on her lips.

“You’re disturbing the peace of other people in this house.” she added, folding her right hand fingers and placing them on her waist.

“Please ma, allow her to carry out some revisions of her school work. She may have to lower her voice.” one of the visitors was trying to plead with Clara, putting her palms together as if she was praying.

“Thank you madam. I understand but if allowed to do it silently, soon, her voice will be raised again and occupants of the next buildings around us will loose their peace.” she explained, facing the woman who pleaded.

“It is her custom and tradition,” she continued, turning to Chinedu, her voice now amplified, everyone in the vicinity could hear her “to talk endlessly. I saw her many times on the way to school, in company of her friends, her lips were busy like a manual typewriter: Pra-pa-ta-pa-ta, pra-pa-ta-pa-ta- pa-ta-ta…”

As she uttered those words, her voice continued to grow louder as she gave Chnedu a scornfull look to register further her disgust for her verbosity.

Clara continued, “I’ve seen you during breaktime in the school, assembling your classmates who listened to your “God-knows-what” that you tell them. You never listen to their contributions. What do you even talk about non-stop?” she asked nodding her head forcefully like a lizard.

All this while, Chinedu had adjusted her sitting position; head on the arm of an executive cushion chair. Her cheek rested on the right palm- concentrating and absorbing every word from her mother’s mouth.

Clara concluded, “As if all those were not enough, after school hours, she engaged in her talking business; clapping and squizing her lips. You’re a talkative, stop it!”

As she turned away to attend to some household chores, Chinedu stood up, beckoned to her mother as she folded her fingers and placed them on her waist as her mother did. She said, “Mummy, listen! Who gave birth to me?”

“Of course I did!”

“Who breastfed me?”

“Yes I did. What has that…”

“Mummy wait!” Chinedu cut in, flagging her left hand before returning it to her waist.

“Who babywalked me?”

“I did with your older siblings…”

“Under your supervision and watchful eyes?”

“Yes, of course.” Clara answered recalling those sweet memories.

“Do you know that all along, I’ve been watching and learning from you?” Chinedu asked facing her mother confidently.

In the house for a few moment, one can hear a pin-drop.

“Do you know that my secret prayer is that I should be a razor-tongued lady like my mother?” Chinedu resumed

“If I’m a talkative as you alleged, mummy, you’re a “talkaholic”. If it is bad to be a talkative, then it’s sad that I’ve taken after a bad model, that’s you!”

Chinedu rounded off and took her seat, drew a wooden stool and rested her feet on it.

“No! No! You’re not taking after me. You resemble your father.” Clara protested vehemently.

“Hmmmmmmmmmm.”

.Everyone present echoed, shaking their heads in disagreement with Clara’s declaration because the man of God was known to be soft spoken and reasoned with others from the Word of God.

Note:
1. Talkaholic is not a word from the dictionary but coined to show the excessiveness of Clara’s words.
2. This is a true life story with little modifications.
3. Every parent is an example for his/her children.

Posted August 17, 2013 by 4thlink in For Women

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A Food For Thought   Leave a comment

A man came back from church on a Sunday afternoon and lifted his wife up.

The wife said, “Honey, this is a new one; you haven’t done this before. This shows you love me.”

The man replied, “Our Pastor said we should lift our problems to God.”

Please, is this true (of you)?

Posted August 11, 2013 by 4thlink in For Women

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Weapons Of Peace Retention Employed By A Woman   Leave a comment

Thank God who gave The Holy Bible to mankind as a Living Manual. It has the best treasures. Whatever happens to anybody today has a precedence. Others have experienced similar things in the past and the records are there for us to learn lessons.
The four weapons to retain Peace in the home discussed earlier in this blogsite were employed by a woman called Abigail, the wife of Nabal. The man was a rich businessman. The sad thing on record about him is “…but the man was harsh and evil in his doings”. (I Samuel 25:3e). “For he is such a scoundrel that one cannot speak to him.” verse 17e.
LOVE
As “harsh and evil” as the man was in his doings, Abigail cleared to him in love. The main’s business was flourishing. The home was in peace. Things were going on normally in the home. No record of a time when the woman and her husband engaged in hot debate. Please, do not have the wrong but common motion that they did this in secret because the woman was good in handling difficult situations. She loved her husband in the real sense of the word. The harsh and evil man must have wronged her but her “Love covers the multitude of Sins” of the man.
KNOWLEDGE
The woman was a knowledgeable one. She was not ignorant of the kind of man she married for life, a harsh and evil man! Abigail did not dispute it with a servant who described Naba as “…a scoundrel that one cannot speak to…”. She did not accuse him of insurbordination or such. like. She knew the man, Nabal, was rightly described. To ward off evil determined against her household by David, Abigail further displayed her knowledge of the man she married when she said, “Please, let not my lord regard this scoundrel
Nabal. For as his name is, so is he, Nabal is with him! “I Samuel 25:25a-c.
Trust Abigail, “she watches over the ways of her household,
And does not eat the of idleness.” Proverbs 31:27.
Not only this, She had the knowledge of the Lord God of Israel. This Fear of the Lord. She was aware of the truth that
“Whoever rewards evil for good,
Evil will not depart from his house.”
She was told of the good David and his men did for Nabal and his business and how Nabal rewarded them with evil. She took positive steps to reverse the situation.
UNDERSTANDING
I Samuel 25:3 records this about the couples
“The name of the man was Nabal, and
the name of his wife Abigail. And she was a
woman of good understanding and beautiful
appearance; but the man was harsh and evil
in his doings. He was of the house of Caleb.”
Abigail understood everything about Nabal. She understood the ways and doings of a foolishman. She must have come across the book of Proverbs in full or in part. She had a good understanding of how to love and live without contention with a foolish man. She understood that a fool speaks from his foolishness. A fool should not be taken serious.
Do you know what? Abigail knew that David was fighting the battle of the Lord and evil was not found in him. She understood that David was pursued and his life sought. She understood that though David was in troubles presently, “…the Lord will certainly make for my lord (David) an enduring house,”. This came to pass. I Sam 25:28-30.
WISDOM
Abigail applied wisdom to retain Peace in her home. When she received the report of the evid that David determined against Nabal and his household, she did not raise an alarm. She maintained her composure but acted in haste. She did not go to Nabal to scold him. She did not engage in nagging him.she did not invite her friends for gossiping or consultation on what to do. She did not go Nabal’s friends or family members to report his evil doings. Instead she looked inward. She looked within herseld. I think she must have liased with the Lord in prayer to know the right thing to do. She did not set her home on fire in thoughts, words or deeds.
After warding off evil determined against her household, the Holy Bible records the steps of wisdom taken by Abigail,
“Now Abigail went to Nabal, and there he was,
holding a feast in his house, like the feast of a king.
And Nabal’s heart was merry within him, for he was
very drunk, therefore she told him nothing, little or much,
until morning light. So it was, in the morning, when the
wine had gone from Nabal, and his wife had told him
these things, that his heart died within him, and he
became like a stone. “I Samuel 25:36-37.
Can you see the effectiveness and efficiency of wisdom at play? If Abigail could attain this feat, you, as a woman, can do the same. The four weapons worked, are working and will work forever for those who employ them. Is your husband as harsh and evil as Nabal? You can deal will him as Abigail dealt with Nabal using these weapons.
Let the whole world see you putting these weapons into action.Please,employ them.It will work for you.

Weapon Of Peace Retention In Action By A Woman   Leave a comment

Thank God who gave The Holy Bible to mankind as a Living Manual. It has the best treasures. Whatever happens to anybody today has a precedence. Others have experienced similar things in the past and the records are there for us to learn lessons.
The four weapons to retain Peace in the home discussed earlier in this blogsite were employed by a woman called Abigail, the wife of Nabal. The man was a rich businessman. The sad thing on record about him is “…but the man was harsh and evil in his doings”. (I Samuel 25:3e). “For he is such a scoundrel that one cannot speak to him.” verse 17e.
LOVE
As “harsh and evil” as the man was in his doings, Abigail cleared to him in love. The main’s business was flourishing. The home was in peace. Things were going on normally in the home. No record of a time when the woman and her husband engaged in hot debate. Please, do not have the wrong but common motion that they did this in secret because the woman was good in handling difficult situations. She loved her husband in the real sense of the word. The harsh and evil man must have wronged her but her “Love covers the multitude of Sins” of the man.
KNOWLEDGE
The woman was a knowledgeable one. She was not ignorant of the kind of man she married for life, a harsh and evil man! Abigail did not dispute it with a servant who described Naba as “…a scoundrel that one cannot speak to…”. She did not accuse him of insurbordination or such. like. She knew the man, Nabal, was rightly described. To ward off evil determined against her household by David, Abigail further displayed her knowledge of the man she married when she said, “Please, let not my lord regard this scoundrel
Nabal. For as his name is, so is he, Nabal is with him! “I Samuel 25:25a-c.
Trust Abigail, “she watches over the ways of her household,
And does not eat the of idleness.” Proverbs 31:27.
Not only this, She had the knowledge of the Lord God of Israel. This Fear of the Lord. She was aware of the truth that
“Whoever rewards evil for good,
Evil will not depart from his house.”
She was told of the good David and his men did for Nabal and his business and how Nabal rewarded them with evil. She took positive steps to reverse the situation.
UNDERSTANDING
I Samuel 25:3 records this about the couples
“The name of the man was Nabal, and
the name of his wife Abigail. And she was a
woman of good understanding and beautiful
appearance; but the man was harsh and evil
in his doings. He was of the house of Caleb.”
Abigail understood everything about Nabal. She understood the ways and doings of a foolishman. She must have come across the book of Proverbs in full or in part. She had a good understanding of how to love and live without contention with a foolish man. She understood that a fool speaks from his foolishness. A fool should not be taken serious.
Do you know what? Abigail knew that David was fighting the battle of the Lord and evil was not found in him. She understood that David was pursued and his life sought. She understood that though David was in troubles presently, “…the Lord will certainly make for my lord (David) an enduring house,”. This came to pass. I Sam 25:28-30.
WISDOM
Abigail applied wisdom to retain Peace in her home. When she received the report of the evid that David determined against Nabal and his household, she did not raise an alarm. She maintained her composure but acted in haste. She did not go to Nabal to scold him. She did not engage in nagging him.she did not invite her friends for gossiping or consultation on what to do. She did not go Nabal’s friends or family members to report his evil doings. Instead she looked inward. She looked within herseld. I think she must have liased with the Lord in prayer to know the right thing to do. She did not set her home on fire in thoughts, words or deeds.
After warding off evil determined against her household, the Holy Bible records the steps of wisdom taken by Abigail,
“Now Abigail went to Nabal, and there he was,
holding a feast in his house, like the feast of a king.
And Nabal’s heart was merry within him, for he was
very drunk, therefore she told him nothing, little or much,
until morning light. So it was, in the morning, when the
wine had gone from Nabal, and his wife had told him
these things, that his heart died within him, and he
became like a stone. “I Samuel 25:36-37.
Can you see the effectiveness and efficiency of wisdom at play? If Abigail could attain this feat, you, as a woman, can do the same. The four weapons worked, are working and will work forever for those who employ them. Is your husband as harsh and evil as Nabal? You can deal will him as Abigail dealt with Nabal using these weapons.
Let the whole world see you putting these weapons into action.Please,employ them.It will work for you.

Know This Also About ‘SEEK’.(Concluding part)   Leave a comment

6.Everywhere.The search must be done eeverywhere.No place in her life must be spared.He must seek it in every form.She must look for it in every corner of her life.Everywhere includes her physical outlook,kitchen connection and influence,romantic and bed performance,utterance,submission,and so on.
7.Until she finds it.The search for Peace is not to be done for a season.It must be carried out always.It is not a once and for all affair.It must not be lazily searched for.You must not relent in your effort.You must do it until you attain it.Succes is not achieved in the beginning or in the middle,it is at the end.No matter what effort and time it takes search for it UNTIL you attain it.
For example,a reknown Lawyer sat for GCE ‘O’ level seven times before he passed excellently.A Chartered Accountant sat for his final professional examinations twenty-two times before he passed.
These people continued UNTIL they got what mattered to them.Therefore,go and do the same about Peace in your home.
As a woman,if peace of your home is of importance to you it is not attained and /or retained on the platter of gold.You must work hard to attain and retain it.What are your academic qualications? Did you stay at home doing nothing and somebody or some people just walked up to you and gave you all the certificates you have? Did you worked for it?
Therefore,work for peace in your home and a certificate of success will be issued to you for people to see although it may not be in ink and paper.

Posted May 9, 2012 by 4thlink in For Women