Used Versus Loved   Leave a comment

While a man was polishing his new car, his 6 yr old son picked up a stone and scratched lines on the side of the car.
In anger, the man took the child’s hand and hit it many times;❤

not realising he was using a wrench.❤

At the hospital, the child lost all his fingers due to multiple fractures.❤

When the child saw his father…❤

with painful eyes he asked, ‘Dad when will my fingers grow back?’❤

The man was so hurt and speechless;❤

he went back to his car and kicked it a lot of times.❤

Devastated by his own actions…..❤

sitting in front of that car he looked at the scratches;❤

The child had written ‘LOVE YOU DAD’.❤❤

The next day that man committed suicide. . .❤

Anger and Love have no limits;❤

Choose the latter to have a beautiful, lovely life….❤❤.

Things are to be used and people are to be loved.❤
But the problem in today’s world is that,❤

People are used and things are loved.❤

In this year, let’s be careful to keep this thought in mind:❤

Things are to be used,but People are to be loved.❤

Watch your thoughts; they become words.❤

Watch your words; they become actions.❤

Watch your actions; they become habits.❤

Watch your habits they become character;❤

Watch your character; it becomes your destiny.❤

God bless you.❤

Do u know the relationship between your two eyes?❤

They blink together, move together, cry together, see things together & sleep together.❤

Even though they never see each other.❤

Friendship should be just like that!

Life is vanity without FRIENDS.


Posted June 5, 2017 by 4thlink in For All

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When it comes to giving,many married people are generous to everybody except their spouses​. There are seven things you should give your spouse daily. This are not weekly , monthly or annual giving. They are things you must give your spouse daily. Let’s see them:.

1. Give your spouse a touch: One of the ways to bond with your spouse is to give him or her a touch. We have encouragement touch, affirmation touch, healing touch, apology touch, and we have sexual touch. Study your partners and know what touch to give at a particular time. If you want God to touch your marriage, touch your spouse. Don’t let today go like that without touching your partner.

2. Give your spouse a Space: As much as you need to bond with your spouse and be together for daily intimacy, communication, affection, planning, etc ,yet, you still need to give your spouse his /her space. There is time for couples  prayers, time for couples bonding. Also there is time for personal prayer, personal meditation, personal rest, personal planing, etc. Don’t choke  your spouse. Don’t be over- possessive and over demanding to your spouse. Stop unnecessary policing and monitoring. Give your spouse a space they need when they need it. 

3: Give your spouse a call/ chat: Some people can chat with all the contacts on their phones & all the friends on their friends list on Facebook. But they will never chat or call their spouse throughout​ the day. Chatting or calling your spouse in a day at work is a way of saying, ‘Dear, despite my busy schedule, I have you in mind. I am thinking about you’. Make sure you send a chat, or give a call to your spouse today. Make it a daily thing. No body can be tired of receiving a caring chat or a call from someone they love. 

4: Give your spouse a Hug: Hugging is fast disappearing in many marriages today. It has been researched that, hugging is one of the emotional needs of every human being. It is scarcity of spousal hug that makes many men to hug ladies who are not their wives indiscriminately. Many women too crave for hugs and they allow every Tom and Jerry to hug them because their husbands are not giving them hug. It might be in the morning, or at night, let no day pass without hugging your spouse. It is one valuable thing you must give your spouse. It could be a welcoming hug, a goodbye hug, an appreciating hug, affirmative hug. Hugging is a non verbal means of communication. Use it well. Don’t let your husband or wife crave for hug from strangers when you are still alive. Hug passionately! Hug romantically. 

5. Give your spouse a smile: God smiles on a home when couples smile at each other. A smile is a way of telling your spouse, ‘You delight me’, ‘Your presence amuses me’, ‘I am pleased with you’. Frowning at your spouse is not a thing that should last a whole day. One of the way to know your marriage is SMELLING is when you are not SMILING with each other. Smile. It is one of the best gifts you can give your spouse in a day. I love to smile alot and I love to see my Queen smile. I don’t like people who are not generous with their smile. It is free. You don’t need to pay to smile. Just relax your muscles and smile. Couples, smile , keep smiling! To prevent your marriage from smelling, keep smiling with your spouse.

6: Give your spouse Peace of mind: The home is the end-point of every thing we do daily. Let me explain it this way. If you are a doctor, you can’t sleep in the hospital all the days of your life. You will need to come home. If you are an engineer, you can’t sleep in the site all days. If you are a lawyer, you can’t sleep in the bar all days. Even as a pastor, you can’t be in the Church 24/7. We all must go back home. Home is the end point. So, if your spouse will be excited to come home, it must be a peaceful home. Stop nagging, fighting, insulting, abusing , threatening, and humiliating your spouse. Give him rest of mind. Give your wife rest of mind. Be the head of your wife sir, not the headache of your wife. Madam, be a wife , and not a ‘knife’ to your husband. Blessed are the couples that give each other peace of mind daily!  

7: Give your spouse a prayer : No matter how wealthy or highly connected you are, there are things you can not do for your spouse. You are limited. One of the ways to show love to your spouse is to commit him/her to the unlimited God. Say a word of prayer to your spouse daily. Every other things may fail and may not work. But no force can withstand  the power of prayer. You can’t heal your spouse, only God can heal him/her. You can lengthen the days of your spouse. Only God can do that. You can’t save your spouse. You can’t take away addiction and evil habits from your spouse , only God can do that for him/her. Pray to God. Mention the name of your husband/wife to God. As a man, you are the priest of your family, lay your hands on your wife, or hold her hands and say a word of prayer to her life. It is a major gift many couples find so difficult to give each other. Blessed is that wife whose husband gives a gift of prayer daily. (Visevisa). 
Pray for your spouse if you don’t want him/her to become a prey in the hand of the devil. 

All this seven things you must give your spouse daily are very easy, simple, free and important. Put them on your ‘to-do-list’. Don’t forget to give it. Remember, givers never lack. If you give your spouse all these, I can assure you that, there is a high assurance that you will get it back. 

I love your marriage. The joy of your family is my priority. 

Share to bless a family. Share, don’t plagarise it. 

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© Ebenezer Diyaolu

Posted June 4, 2017 by 4thlink in For All

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June Prophecies   Leave a comment

“Great is thy faithfulness!
Great is thy faithfulness!
Morning by morning new mercies I see; all I have needed Thy hand hath provided, Great is thy faithfulness “Lord, unto me.
Glory be to the
Faithful Father for His protection throughout the month of May, for His Mercy that endureth forever over your life and family.
I pray you will continue to enjoy His Goodness and Peace in Jesus Name.

Stay blessed and prepared for the coming of the Lord.

Posted June 3, 2017 by 4thlink in Monthly Family Prayer.

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Race And Grace   Leave a comment

   If man runs with men,  its called RACE, but when he runs with God, it is called GRACE.  Grace keeps Us from Disgrace.

   May God’s GRACE be sufficient for you and your household today  and beyond In Jesus Name.

   No matter how overloaded a bus is, the driver’s seat is always reserved. I pray very fervently that no one shall take your rightful position in your household in Jesus Name. Can you say a loud “Amen!”?

Posted May 29, 2017 by 4thlink in Monthly Family Prayer.

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Why Do You Follow Jesus Christ?   1 comment

“Come to Me, all you who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest.” Matthew 11:28. NKJV.

After a hard labor, there is a need for rest. It is a common saying among retirees that “Rest is sweet after labor.” This is true in every sense. That is why Jesus implores everyone who labor and carry heavy burden to come to Him for their desired or deserved rest.

Only Jesus offers true rest. Do you want rest? Come to Jesus!

The next and most important thing is to follow Jesus; to be in a safe hand where He can safely keep you to enjoy His rest.

Following Jesus Christ has tremendous values.

Now, have you at any time in your life ask yourself, “Why am I following Jesus?” This is because people follow Jesus for different reasons.

A man in the Holy Bible, for example, went to the Lord Jesus and said to Him,
“Teacher, I will follow You wherever You go.” Matthew 8:19.

As a good Teacher who was looking for followers, what do you expect Jesus to do? What would you do if you were in His shoes? He ought to embrace this volunteer who wanted to follow Him and add him to the list of His disciples.

The contrary was the case because the Lord knew the contents of his heart. He knew his heart was not right within him.

As a good Teacher, Christ replied him,
“Foxes have holes and birds of the air have nests but the Son of Man has nowhere to lay His head.” Matthew 8:20.

Why did all.knowing Jesus make reference to “foxes have holes and birds of the air have nests”? He asserted that He had “nowhere to lay His head”. Why was this emphasis on accommodation? Why did He not say He had no food, clothing or car but where to lay His head?

The voluntary follower must have been someone who love comfort too much. His thoughts may have tilted towards following Jesus for the purpose of becoming an estate owner or someone close to that.

He was addicted to worldliness without repentance.

A close examination of their conversation shows that the man said nothing again; but Jesus called another person with a heart of flesh who wanted to bury his father. He said,
“Follow Me, and let the dead bury their own dead.” Matthew 8:22.

This man immediately obeyed.

Who knows? The voluntary follower may have “contaminated” other disciples to obstruct Christ’s ministry. Jesus knew his heart, so he refused him.

My beloved reader, that was a man! Now, ask yourself this very important question, “Why am I following Jesus Christ?”

There are various reasons people follow Jesus today. Like the man mentioned earlier, people follow Him because He is the Provider. Yes, He is! This group of people believe that if they follow Jesus, they will own many properties and live in comfort. Do you know what? Such people will not hesitate to do anything to acquire lands and houses by honest and dishonest means.

The spread of the gospel is never their concern or priority , they pull other followers to join them. They destabilize the church of the Living God. Salvation means nothing to them.

They have no provisions for eternal life for themselves or others who have not known the Lord. There are other groups who follow the Lord for other reasons. For instance, Apostle Judas Ischariot followed Him so he could steal from the Ministry’s purse because he was the keeper (John 12:6).

A brother who had a wrong motive for following Jesus once asserted,
“If I work (follow) for the Lord for ten years and does not provide me a car, I will stop His work (following Him).”

Do you know the funny part of his story? He had been married for many years without a child in a community where a leper is better than someone who is childless. Bearing a child was not important to him.

In your own case, what is that thing that can prevent you from following Jesus?

Why do you follow Jesus?

I love Peter’s reply after a group of disciples stopped following the Master. Jesus turned to the twelve and asked them if they were also going back, Apostle Peter answered,
“Lord, to whom shall we go? You have the words of eternal life. Also we have come to believe and know that You are the Christ, the Son of the Living God.”John 6:68-69.NKJV.

Today is the day of repentance if you follow the Lord for wrong reasons. Be closer to the Holy Bible and know whom you have believed.
Stay blessed and rapturable because the Lord is coming soon.

Beauty Versus Behavior   Leave a comment

“Don’t be concerned about outward beauty of fancy hair styles, expensive jewelry, or beautiful clothes. You should clothe yourselves instead with the beauty that comes from within, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is so precious to God. This is how the holy women of old made themselves beautiful. They trusted God and accepted the authority of their husbands.” 1 Peter3:3-5. NLT.

The above quoted verses have been (and still are) a serious source of doctrinal controversies among the people of God.

Whereas, this ought not be so.

A careful study of the Scriptures will convince us that every word from the Scriptures is for the benefits of everyone who abides by it. It is rich in content and application.

Many times, however, we fail to “…fully obey the Lord your God and carefully keep all his commands…”(Deuteronomy 28:1).

A more careful examination of the verses reveals that
*They teach moderation because too much of everything is bad.
*They encourage balance between the spiritual and the physical.
*They encourage more focus on the inner man and how to make him beautiful.

These are always forgotten.

Every creature has twenty-four hours at its disposal. What is important is “how” these hours are spent in that this directly dictate what will happen to each creature, most especially, man.

Many women spend hours on ensuring they look best outwardly. They care for the external man. They never fail to “acquire” all things they feel are necessary to achieve this.

Cosmestics also take a good bunch of their income in their attempt to look beautiful. Do you know what the Scriptures say about this external decorations?
“Charm is deceptive, and beauty does not last,
but a woman who fears the Lord will be praised.” Proverbs 31:30.

Do not deceive people with your outward appearance. Take care of your REAL self who is within.

Your inner contents will influence what you will receive and what will happen to you.

Your behavior is a direct product of your inner man.

Unfading beauty is a result of “spiritual cosmestics”. It benefits the spiritual and physical man that you are. A few of these are listed below: *a gentle spirit;
*a quiet spirit;
*trust in the Lord;
*ability to accept the authority of their husbands;
*absence of fear.

Understand that to accept the authority of your husband is not slavery or servitude. It does not make you inferior in any form. However, it guarantees your security in every way.

Sarah’s lifestyle, Abraham’s wife, remains a good reference point. Because she was able to submit to her husband’s authority. King Abimelech said to her,
“…behold, he (Abraham) is to thee a covering of the eyes; unto all that are with thee, …” Genesis 20:16. KJV.

Who is to you “a covering of the eyes”? You need one; your submission will procure this for you.

Sarah accepted Abraham’s authority, although a beautiful woman, that she called him “Lord!” or “Master!” . Do you know what? Kings and Princes craved her beauty when she was more than sixty.five years old. Can any man-made cosmestics do this? You know better! How do you think face powder will look like on one hundred years old woman? Can it make her as beautiful as when she was twenty or thirty years?

Therefore, let your behavior retain your home and job. Do not totally rely on your physical beauty alone, beautify your real YOU within and enjoy its benefits. How you behave will determine a lot about you and your end in life.

Your beauty can secure you a job but your behavior can turn the tide against you and you may lose it. Your beauty can secure you a husband but your behavior may turn you to an ex-wife.

Be not intoxicated by your external beauty, beautify your inner man to possess a lasting and enviable beauty.
Stay blessed and rapturable because the Lord is coming soon.
KJV is King James Version of the Scriptures.

A School That Never Existed   Leave a comment

Do You Know A School Like This?
There are schools of various kinds and are engaged in different courses of study (or offer different training opportunities). There are various groups that are constituents of every school. Let me mention a few of them: the head of the school, the teaching staff, the non.teaching staff and the students.

Now, let me narrow my discussion to two of these groups who form the nucleus of a school: the teachers and the students.

I am searching for a kind of school, if you know of any, let me know please. A school

*where the students teach themselves without any need for teachers who can put them through their studies. Teachers may be employed by the school authorities but are redundant;

*after each student had taught himself, he conducts continuous assessment tests and set the examination questions;

*each student will supervise himself in the examinations hall;

*after examinations, each student will mark his scripts and awards himself necessary marks. A school where each student awards scores in each subject or course;

*each student promotes himself to the next class of his choice;

*students are authorised to issue certificates to themselves in the name of the school attended;

* students determine the date of their graduation and on the day decorate themselves and conduct everything associated with graduation.

Please in your search and before you respond, consider online opportunities now available as well. Let me know of any.

However, if you are not able to identify any such a school, then there is a problem with mankind.

What do I mean?

Do you know that life is like a school? Life has its constituent parts. As in the hypothetical school above being sought, life has been turned into such a college or school where
“…everyone did what was right in his own eyes.” Judges 17:6. NKJV.

In the days when there was no king in Isreal and everyone was doing his will, each time people went their own ways, trouble came.

Do you know that mankind does not want One who is the Owner, the Sole Authority and Head of Heaven and Earth to have any say in his affairs. They do not want to recognize the presence of the Master of the Universe, the only begotten Son to whom the Father had made the Head of all.

The Master, Lord Jesus Christ asserted,
“..without Me you can do nothing.” John 5:5f.

By the time the Master departed to be with the Father, He sent another Teacher, the Holy Spirit to abide with those who are his saints. This Helper from the Master has the duty to
“…teach you all things, and bring to your remembrance all things,…
…guide you into all truth;…” John 14:26; 16:13.

It is sad that many believers who are given these promises behave like those who had not known the Lord. They fail to recognize those under whose authority they are. My private studies have shown that many saints want to behave like a student who want to do everything in life’s school as they want. They do not want to recognize those authorities in life matters. This cannot go without consequences.

If you cannot locate a school as requested earlier in this piece, then be informed that you are accountable to a higher spiritual authority that rule over the universe.

Note that your score card is in the hands of the authorities of life’s college.
Recognize them today. Yield to their dictates. Follow their commandments. Be reconciled through Jesus Christ and live to please the School Authorities by the help of the living and unseen Helper and Comforter, the Holy Spirit. At the end of your career in life, you either earn the certificate to rest in the bossom of the Lord or go straight to hell for your failure. Repent today.
Stay blessed and rapturable because the Lord is coming soon.
Scriptures quoted are from New King James Version of the Holy Bible.