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LEAVING AND CLEAVING: THE SECRET OF A SUCCESSFUL MARRIAGE   Leave a comment

    One plus one of God, as far as marriage is concerned, is equal to one. This can be compared to taking a tea spoonful from a sachet of salt and adding it to a tea cup of water from a big jar. The combination is neither salt nor water, it becomes a solution. This is what marriage is planned by the Initiator, God, to be. In few cases today, it remains so.

     For a marriage to work the way the Lord designed it, no other short cut than for every individual involved in the project to observe the two mandatory principles involved. You are not wrong to call it the law of God for marriage. God’s own designed marriage involves each person from the opposite sex, that is made and female. Any other arrangement is from the kingdom of hell!

     What then are the two principles of God for a successful marriage?

Leaving. The first step toward having a successful home is to leave. What are the things to leave? For a female, she must leave her
(a)land, (b) country (c)family (d)father’s house (e)old friends (f)old ways of living (g)god.
Ruth gives every woman a pattern, she said to her mother-in-law:
     “Entreat me not to leave you,
      Or to turn back from following after you,
      For wherever you go, I will go,
      And wherever you lodge, I will lodge;
      Your people shall be my people,
      And your God, my God,
      Where you die, I will die,
      And there will I be buried.
      The Lord do so to me, and more also,
      If  anything but death parts you and me.”  Ruth 1:6. (New King James Version, NKJV).
     These words also corroborate the words of the Psalmist of Israel that counsels,
     “Listen, O daughter,
        consider and incline your ear,
     Forget your own people also, and
        your father’s house,
     So, the King will greatly desire your
        beauty
     Because He is your Lord,
        Worship Him,”   Psalm 45:10-11.

     Let me not fail to emphasize the importance of leaving former “god”. Ruth did not fail to abandon all gods in Moab to follow the God of Israel. Inability of Rachel to forget the “gods” of her father’s house was her undoing, the heartthrob of Jacob lost out because she did not live to see the greatness of her two children. She did not recognize the God of Jacob because she stole the “idols” of her father. Details are contained in Genesis chapter thirty one in verses thirty-four to thirty-five,

     For a male, leaving is a commandment from the Lord that must be obeyed. The Holy Bible discloses,
     “Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother
      And be joined to his wife, and they shall became one flesh.”
     Genesis 2:24   NKJV.

     Do you know that these words becomes evident in the words of Adam when Eve was made? He said,
     “This is now (on the day of marriage) bone of my bones
      And flesh of my flesh,
      She shall be called Woman
      Because she is taken out of man.”   Genesis 2:23. 
     As a man, is it possible to dismember parts of your body? Do you want your bones to be dislocated? Which part of your flesh do you want separated? It is possible to do either of these (God forbid) but it brings unbearable pains and discomfort.
     A man must leave his father and mother to be joined to his wife.

Cleaving. This is the ultimate goal of marriage. After leaving
comes cleaving. Leaving without cleaving gives birth to loneliness which marriage was meant to crush. Loneliness is worse than cancer or AIDS. Fussing must come after leaving. this is not wrong, I think, that cleaving can be seen as loss of independence. The words of Apostle Paul on couples make this clear,
“The wife does not have authority over her own body,
         but the husband does. And likewise the husband does not
         have authority over his own body, but the wife does.”
                                                                           1Corinthians 7:4.

     Cleaving is unity. Unity assures standing. Cleaving is oneness. It changes a spouse’s words from ‘I, my, me, mine.’ to ‘we, our, us, ours’. The words of Ruth is worth repeating here,
     “Entreat me not to leave you,
      Or to turn back from following after you,
      For wherever you go, I will go,
      And whenever you lodge, I will lodge;
      Your people shall be my people,
      And your God, my God,
      Where you die, I will die,
      And there will I be buried.
      The Lord do so to me, and more also,
      If anything but death parts you and me.”  Ruth 1:6.  NKJV.

     Let me reiterate it here that cleaving is a spiritual issue. Malachi 2:14-15 confirms,
     “…Because the Lord has been witness
      Between you and the wife of your
         youth,…
      Yet she is your companion
      And your wife by convenant.
      But did He not make them one,
      Having a remnant of the Spirit?
      And why one?
      He seeks godly offspring.
      Therefore take heed to your spirit
      And let none deal treacherously
         with the wife of his youth.”   NKJV.

   Cleaving is oneness of the Spirit. That is the reason Ruth’s statement “your God, my God” is the peak of her decision. This is in contrast to Rachel’s decision. She was never joined in the spirit with her husband. She loved the man but hated his God. She demonstrated this by stealing her father’s household idols and she protected them that her husband was not aware of her evil act.

     Apostle Paul does not leave us in the dark when he emphasizes the Spiritual importance of “joining” or cleaving. He reveals,
     “Or do you know that he who is joined to a harlot is one
       body with her? For “the two,” (in marriage), he says, “shall 
      become one flesh.” But he who is joined to the Lord is one
      Spirit with Him.”    1Cor 6 : 16-17.

      This is the reason God, as the initiator of marriage, must be involved in your marriage. This translates that the husband and the wife must be joined with the Lord. He should be in the beginning, middle and end of their marriage. One of the reasons is that “He seeks godly offering(s) from the couple. If you do not want to disappoint your Creator and you want the end of your life to be pleasing, to God, leave and cleave to your God as well as your spouse. Love the Lord with everything you have as human being. Then love yourself. Demonstrate the love that you have towards God and yourself by loving your neighbors. Therefore, to have a successful marriage, be ready to leave and cleave.
    Stay blessed and prepared because the Lord is coming soon.

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June Prophecies   Leave a comment

“Great is thy faithfulness!
Great is thy faithfulness!
Morning by morning new mercies I see; all I have needed Thy hand hath provided, Great is thy faithfulness “Lord, unto me.
Glory be to the
Faithful Father for His protection throughout the month of May, for His Mercy that endureth forever over your life and family.
I pray you will continue to enjoy His Goodness and Peace in Jesus Name.

Stay blessed and prepared for the coming of the Lord.

Posted June 3, 2017 by 4thlink in Monthly Family Prayer.

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An Evil Act Of Fathers.   Leave a comment

For the purpose of this piece, A FATHER include:
1. A married man who is blessed with a female child.
2. A man, married or single, who, by any means, happened to be the first male a young girl has to be close to.

Everyday, people go to marrriage registry to pledge their love to each other “until death parts us”. This same “pair” of people still go to courts of law to tell Judges “We want you to dissolve our marrriage because we cannot continue as husband and wife.”. This happens soon or late.

What a great contradiction!

This was (and still is) not God’s plan to institute marrriage.

One unassailable but little known truth is that fathers contribution to this unpleasant scenario is great. Fathers are not aware that they directly destroy the future homes of their daughters.

Do you want to know how?

Every woman is expected to be a home builder. A woman does this with her wisdom. Now, there are lots a young girl needs to know about a man. This must begin from her father’s house.

Do you know that first impression lasts long? The first man in a woman’s life, in most cases, is her father. Whatever knowledge she gathers from him will form an initial and lasting impression in her heart. How a young girl perceives her father determines her perception of other men, most especially her husband, in the future.

If “first impression lasts long”, which impression do you give your daughter(s)?

A man whose wife gave birth to a beautiful girl once hissed and left the maternity home in rage when he was so informed. He was not happy and hated the wife for it. What a mess!

Do you think this father will love the little girl as she grew up? The answer nay be “No!”. If the girl fails to experience a father’s love, do you think she will truly trust any man’s love in the future?

It will be easier for such any woman in this category to leave her husband on any flimsy excuse. In the first instance, such go into marriage for other reasons rather than love.

Brutal fathers wound the hearts if their daughters, thus making them potential haters of men, ditto their husbands.

This type of fathers deny their daughters necessary “masculine training” required to weather the storms of their lives, most especially those of their homes. They make them available for “old women fables” that sometimes work against their success in future.

Are you one of the brutal fathers? Are you unkind to your daughter(s)? A you like a lion to her? Can you be approached by her for anything?

Today, you must have a complete change of attitude. You must not indirectly destroy the future joy of a family that your daughter ought to build.

I love an old man’s statement. I met him at an immigration office in 2013. He had many daughters and a lone son. He confidently said, “I trained my daughters like men. There is nothing they cannot do and they can easily adapt to any situation.”.

That is a father fir you!

Therefore, make yourself available to your daughter(s). Speak kindly to her. Cherish her. Do not deny her the joy from a father which you can give. Your position in her life is crucial as the first man she grew up to know in her life. Begin to help build your daughter’s future home today. Let her have confidence in you. Permit her to to have gut to confide in you. Allow her to trust you.

If you do not treat your daughter like a Princess, it may be a spill over from your past. Perhaps, your mother did not treat you like a Prince. The ill-treatment must come to an end. Please do this.

Do you want your heart to be healed of past childhood wounds? Please, visit regularly, if possible, follow my blog, http://www.peacelink.wordpress.com. You will not regret doing so. This is where I share the secrets of a peaceful home.
Be informed or reminded that the Lord Jesus Christ’s coming soon. Stay blessed and rapturable.

Posted February 26, 2015 by 4thlink in For Daddy

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My Baby’s Food (In honor of MoyinOluwa and every child.)   1 comment

My baby cries!
Where’s my baby’s food?

A ready made food
Prepared well in advance,
Before she comes.

A food from divine kitchen
Of the Most High God.

Best, balanced, beloved!
Sure, safe, sealed!

My baby cries!
Where is my baby’s food?

She needs the fruits,
Fully filled, freely given,
Containing the juice.

She needs the juice
In the fruits from her
Father’s garden.

My baby cries!
Where is my baby’s food?

She needs the wine,
Her Father brews,
For her benefits.

It is not for sale,
Nor it is for hire!
But for my baby only.

It is not in the stores
Or in thd supermarket.

It is not in the mall,
And not in the hall.

It is there with the mother,
I will take her to the mother!
NB: Mothers breastfeed your children and tell others.

Posted November 6, 2012 by 4thlink in For Mummy

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Your Demand Can Be Met. (Part One)   Leave a comment

In the last article, we considered the Five Demands Of A Young Lady. For her, and her household, everything has been working well. She is now ‘success personified’. Do you have your own demands? The young lady seemed to make it simple, do you want to be a success? Be prepared to have all your Demands supplied.
What are the preparations to make? Using the young lady as a case study, we shall discuss her demands one after the other and what made them met.
DEMAND ONE.
She wanted to marry a man who was ready to be her father. Fine! Anyone that will make this demand must be prepared to be a child, in this case, a daughter. She must be prepared to take instructions.
Who wants a disobedient child? No one! Obedience is what will make a demand for a father to be met.
To the Ephesian children, and to every child, Apostle Paul has this to say,
‘1 Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right.
2 “Honor your father and mother”, which is the first commandment with a promise:
3″that it may be well with you and you may live long on the earth.” Ephesians 6:1-3.
The young lady in question must have come across, meditate on and understand what these verses mean. She must have vowed to live a life of a daughter to have a man who will be a father as a spouse.
Note what the sister had prepared to do:
1. She had prepared to obey the man as a father according to Godly instructions.
2. She knew what was right and was prepared to do exactly that.
3. She was prepared to honor her father.
She had a perfect understanding of what awaits her for doing this. What are the benefits? Two were mentioned in verse three thus:
1. That it may be well with her.
2. That she may live long on the earth. A great secret of longevity!
So many single mothers run the risk of premature death as a result of emotional upheaval, that are sometimes avoidable.
Failure of any woman that demands a man who will be a father to her to know these rudiments and abide by them will surely create a loopehole, that can not be filled. So many women want to live well and long but are not ready to sow the seed that leads to reaping what they want abundantly.
The peaceful home you want is nearby if you are ready to be an obedient child. Every child that obeys her father can be confident of her father’s unfailing love, protection anytime and anywhere.
Do you want your husband to be a father to you? Be prepared to obey him! Proverbs 4:1-2 read,
‘Hear, my children,the instruction of a father,
And give attention to
know understanding;
For I give you good doctrine:
Do not forsake my law.’
Therefore, obey your father-husband in the Lord. Do not forsake his law and doctrines according to the will of God.
NB: Every Bible verse is taken from New King James Version.

Posted August 26, 2012 by 4thlink in For Mummy

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