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Race And Grace   Leave a comment

   If man runs with men,  its called RACE, but when he runs with God, it is called GRACE.  Grace keeps Us from Disgrace.

   May God’s GRACE be sufficient for you and your household today  and beyond In Jesus Name.

   No matter how overloaded a bus is, the driver’s seat is always reserved. I pray very fervently that no one shall take your rightful position in your household in Jesus Name. Can you say a loud “Amen!”?

Posted May 29, 2017 by 4thlink in Monthly Family Prayer.

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You Can Be A Happy Woman   Leave a comment

On May 22, 2015, a woman Minister of God referred to men as containers bought by a woman whose contents are not known at the time of purchase. On arrival at home, opening of the containers reaveal the true contents. She said some women found beverages in their containers. Some women found sand in theirs; while many women found granite. Discoveries of women after marriage differ in respect of the true contents of their men.

This is true.

Are you surprised? I don’t know if you will agree with me that there is no one formula for marrriage. What do I mean? Each marriage has what will make it work. Thank God, the Scriptures has the formulae for ALL MARRRIAGES as revealed by the Holy Spirit. For a marriage to be successful calls for hard work.

You must work hard to make your marrriage a success.

Do you believe that each content of every container has its use and value? Do you agree that each has its chains of benefits? To derive any benefit from the contents of a container calls for diligence.

For instance, from the sister’s analogy, if you find beverages in your container, you need to take certain steps to derive maximum benefits from it. You need to prepare it before taking it. At this point, I don’t want to burden you with the steps you will take but think for a few minutes on “If I receive a tin of beverages, how do I take it? What steps will I take?”.

Those who find lemon in their containers do not need to go about complaining to whoever care to listen about their findings. They need to sit down and think deeply on how to make the best use of it. Any woman who found lemon in her containers can easily make lemonade out of them. She can enjoy this with others.

The functions of beverages is entirely different from that of lemon. Yet, both are of value to their owners. Do you understand this?

That is why “A happy woman is not the one who married the best man, it is the woman who makes the best of the one she married.” is a supporter of what the woman Minister said as quoted earlier.

Do you know how you can make the best out of your man? There is a key disclosed in Proverbs 14:1?
“The wise woman builds her house,
But the foolish pulls it down with her hands.”
You need wisdom to make the best use of the contents of your man. WISDOM! It is the principal thing.

Relying on force, murmuring, complaining, strong attacks, craftiness and other flesh based devices cannot be of any positive help to you but wisdom.

How do you acquire the required wisdom to handle your man? James 1:5 teaches that, “If any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask God who gives to all liberally and without reproach, and it will be given to him.”

Do you want to be happy in your home? Searching again for “an ideal man” is not the next line of action but asking God for the wisdom to turn your man to the “Ideal Man” you desire. Who knows? Your getting married to your man may be the beginning of your ministry or it may be your major ministry for which you will receive fron the Lord,
“Well done, good and faithful servant; …enter into the joy of your Lord.”
Stay blessed abduction rapturable because the Lord is coming.
Scriptures quoted are from New King James Version.

Two Keys To A Sure Promotion   Leave a comment

Promotion is very important in the life of people. To remain on the same level for long is not a thing to be desired in that it becomes a routine and boring. It does not even bring honor and glory.

There is nothing to celebrate in stagnation.

If you are promoted, your life will improve and it will bring along with it honor and glory.

One sure thing is that promotion does not come on a platter of gold. There are conditions that attract it. If you meet them, promotion will surely come your way. To save time and space, let me put them into two questions.

Question One.
What do you work for?
I read a story many years ago that can help you to answer the above question and make necessary changes.

Now, the story.

Two Gardners were employed on the same day in the same corporation. Twenty years after, one of them, named “B”, became the Chief Executive Officer of that Corporation.

It was “A” who narrated the story; he was still working as a Gardner in that same place of work.

When his interviewer asked him the reasons for the promotion of “B” and his remaining as a Gardner . His reply was,
” “B” worked for the corporation but I worked for my pay (wages) only. ”

Can you picture any difference between the two? Did “B” deserve his promotion? Did “A” deserve remaining on the same level?

Which one do you want, promotion or stagnation?

If you are the type who work for the money or gain, you are an hindrance to your own promotion. What do you want after your pay? Then, you must pay for it.

Every corporation will pay attention to any employee who work for it because such staff member loves his employer and seeks her welfare. Such employer will look for opportunities to compensate a worker with hardwork.

A common complaint of a lazy or stagnant worker is “What is my salary or wages?” Or “What am I earning? The working hours are over, I cannot work any extra hours except they can convert it to cash.”

These and other such complaints come from him. No wonder many workers agitate always for “a pay rise”. A question that should be asked is “Do they deserve it?”

I am not against any demand for a pay increase. Certain employers are exploiters. They never think of compensating hardworking staff. Workers should agitate for their entitlements.

To be promoted, work hard for your employers and seek their good.

Question two.
Who do you work for?
Besides what you work for, you must iron out “who you work for”. What am I saying? You must answer the question, are you working for man or the Lord?

To work for man is to receive your rewards from man. You must note that man is limited, his resources are finite. His power is limited. Man also can easily forget your past and current good deeds. He may even appreciate them but lacks the means of rewarding you accordingly.

On the other hand, if you work in any capacity for the Lord, you stand a great chance to gain what you never planned or expected.


Read what the Scriptures reveal about the Lord,
“The earth is the Lord’s, and the fullness thereof ; the world, and they that dwell therein.
Now unto him that is able to do exceeding abundantly above all that we ask or think, according to the power that worketh in us.” Psalm 24:1; Ephesians 3:20.

When you work for the Lord, you will have rest of mind. Your work becomes stress free. You will experience peace of God.

Register this in your heart as the Scriptures confirms,
“It is vain for you to rise up early to sit up late, to eat the bread of sorrows:
For so he giveth his beloved sleep.” Psalm 127:2.

Note that what obtains as an employee holds as a self-employed man. Be more interested in making a good name than in making money. Your goodwill will attract cash, sooner or later.

Do you desire promotion from the Lord? Do you want Him to elevate you? Now and forever, do everything “…as unto the Lord,” and He will surely reward you with great promotions you never think of.
Stay blessed and rapturable, the Lord is coming soon.

Seven Dangers Involved In Immaturity Before Marriage.   Leave a comment

What marrriage has become is not what God planned it to be. So many factors have defaced and outrightly changed it. One of such factors is IMMATURITY. In brief , let us discuss SEVEN DANGERS involved in this.

ONE: Sudden death.
There are cases of sudden death resulting from immaturity in marrriage. This cut across races and culture. Husband have shot their wives dead over trivialities that saturate marrriages; wives have piosoned their own husbands because of unsubstantiated suspicions.

The list is endless!

TWO: Divorce. Divorce has become an “easy option” today. This has taken place on any flimsy excuse that have been balooned in the court of law. The facts presented before judges have been enlarged out of proportion; so judges have no choices but to dissolve many marriages.

Whereas, maturity before marrriage would have saved many.

“For the Lord God of Israel says
That He hates divorce…” Malachi 2:16 a-b. New King James Version.

Do you want to involve yourself in what God hate?.

Watch it!

This is seen by many people as a “better option” to divorce. For many reasons people prefer separation to divorce.

To cover up, they will appear “as if” they are husband and wife when “love” has ceased to exist. In this case, depending on ages of the children , and other factors, they “share” the children.

Late october 2014, I heard a story of a couple who live under one roof but never see each other’s face. They have partitioned the house very well that they cannot see or meet each other.

When their children are on holiday from school, for a month, these children will spend two weeks with the mother in her “apartment” while the other two weeks will be spent with their father.

In another family, they did not talk together. They write on paper anything they wanted to say.

The wife would write, “Your food is ready, take it in the kitchen.”

“I have put money on the dinning table to buy foodstuffs for the month” the husband would write.

Is this good?

Five: – A SAD LIFE.
The initial plan of God to institute marrriage is for both man and woman to live joyfully. Joy has eluded many homes today. There are couples today who live together BUT without JOY. They easily “see” their plight as “my cross”. So, the husband becomes “a cross” to carry for the wife and vice versa.

This ought not to be so.

A man of God on a wedding day narrated his experience with a couple. They were neighbours. The husband went to the man of God when meditating in the word of God one day. He explained that things have gone wrong in his home for years now.

The man of God was surprised because they always go out together wearing the same type of clothes, shoes, and so on. Young men and women used to pray for their kind of home, not knowing what is going on.

The man if God pointed to this but the man replied,
“Our clothes, shoes are always uniform but our lives are not as people see us. Love is lost!”
Immaturity abhors this danger.

Please, bear with me, read the concluding part in the next piece.

Posted January 14, 2015 by 4thlink in For All

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Are You Married To A Man Or…?   Leave a comment

To start with, I sincerely apologize for not updating this blog for sometime now. The Spirit was willing but the flesh was weak. Please, remember me in your prayers. There are interesting topics I love to share with you. I have now resumed, the Holy Spirit will help me to meet you here at least once a week.

Let us begin with this:

Are You Married To A Man Or..?

“Sometimes, when you see how caring another woman’s husband is, you may be tempted to poison your own.”

This was a frightening statement from a woman in August 2014. I never expected a statement like this from her.


She is an attendee in her church programs. She appears as a Christian by all standards.

This woman became ill and her friend’s husband, a medical practitioner took care of her. This man used to call her to know her state of her health regularly. She received one of such calls when she came to me for counselling. After the call, she made that statement.

At that point, I remembered the conversations between Jesus Christ and a Samarian woman near Jacob’s well in John Chapter four.

Jesus said, “Go, call your husband and come here.”
She answered,”I have no husband.”

“You have well said, ‘I have no husband’ for you have had five husbands, and the one whom you now have is not your husband; in that you spoke truly.” John 4:16-18.

Now can the woman who said “one may be tempted to poison one’s husband” be said to be married to the man for whom she has five children?

Now let me mention seven reasons (among others) a woman may settle for a man to live with and not a husband.

Death of a woman’s loved husband may rob her of her future joy from a new home. She may permanently close the door of her heart to avoid another wound.

The two daughters of Lot agreed that “There is no man on earth”.
This is a common mistake whereas God has alternatives.

Divorce is another factor that can make a woman to live with a man who is not her husband. A disappointed woman may decide wrongly not to love any man again “to be on the safe side”. Yet she may live with a man for the sake of living together only.

Past waywardness for which a woman now pays the penalty. What do I mean? Many women have lost those who really loved them elope with a man in money or position.
Many are later abandoned to care for themselves. At this point, they go for “the next available” man and settle with same.

Childlessness that leads to a change of husband. When a woman is too anxious to have children, she may move from one man to another.
At the end of the day, she may live the rest of her life with a man who is not her husband.

In certain cultures and religions, forced marrriage takes place. A father or mother may give his/her daughter to a man as wife against her will.

No matter what she is given materially, she will not be satisfied. As an “obedient” child, she may live with the man whereas she married him against her will.

Another thing is she may leave the man to live with another next available man to protest her forced marrriage.

Covetousness is another factor that can lead a woman to live with a man who is not her husband. This happens when a woman cannot tame her needs/wants, especially if she loves money and other material things.
A woman can therefore live with a man for material gains when they are not husband and wife.

Marrriage through deceit is another factor that can make a woman to live with a man who is not her husband. If a woman is lured into marrriage, she may opt to stay with the man.

The missing core issue in this matter is LOVE. This is the key factor that establishes a man and a woman as husband and wife.

However, no matter your circumstances, you must not fail to demonstrate God’s love to your fellow man. Not only this, you have no right to claim another man’s life. It is a sin against God and humanity.
Turn to your God… Pray to Him. Tell Him to heal you of all wounds and to give you His better alternative. You should be ready to cooperate and accept His new provisions.
Stay blessed and rapturable because the Lord is coming soon.

Posted December 5, 2014 by 4thlink in For Mummy

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A Food For Thought   Leave a comment

A man came back from church on a Sunday afternoon and lifted his wife up.

The wife said, “Honey, this is a new one; you haven’t done this before. This shows you love me.”

The man replied, “Our Pastor said we should lift our problems to God.”

Please, is this true (of you)?

Posted August 11, 2013 by 4thlink in For Women

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Lest I Forget!   Leave a comment

As you have seen clearly in the two case studies we have examined in the last two write-ups,SEEK PEACE in the home,your Jerusalem; PURSUE PEACE outside it.
It is a must to Seek Peace in the home. This calls for sacrifice by all means possible. It must be with love not law or by force.
It must be gently and patiently sought UNTIL it is attained and retained permanently. The value of peace within your householm is well spent out in Ecclesiastes 4:12 thus,
‘Though one may be overpowered
by another,two can withstand
And a threefold cord is not quickly
In brief,this verse tells us that a man or woman alone may be easily overpowered by another person. However,a man and his wife will surely withstand an opponent.
That will happen if tiere is peace between them.
Do you see that it is a must? Tha verse concludes that a family of father,mother and their children,a threefold cord,is not easily broken. How more difficult will it be if other members of a household are brought in?
The effectiveness and efficiency of a peaceful home is rightly put thus
‘…one chase a thousand,
And two put ten thousand to flight,…’ Deuteronomy 32:32a.
This can be interpreted that as one chases a thousand,two will put ten thousand to flight and three will drite away one hundred thousand.That is a threefold cord in action for you.
There are three enemies of every home,ditto mankind. These are satan,sin and the world. Each of these enemies is strong enough to distablise a home,if care is not taken. That is why every resources within the home must be deployed to chase these enemies away for peace to reign.
The combined effort of the members of a peaceful household will overcome these permanent enemies. If there is no fears within the home,the war without can be fought and won.
Even members of a home must not lose sight of the fact that the peace in the home does not guarantte peace outside but will surely pave the way for it.
Each member must know that there is war without and must be fought. Know this that every war has battles contained within it. Satanic war is there. Sin war is not wanted. War from the world is ever present!
Peace must therefore be pursued by chasing these enemies who are ever ready to invade every home away.
Read the lamentation of a man in Jeremiah10:20,
‘My tent (home) is plundered,
And all my cords are broken,
My children have gone from me,
And they are no more.
There is no one to pitch my tent
Or set up my curtains.’
The cords were broken because they were weak as a result of lack of unity and peace. Do you love to lament like him? Please be wise,seek peace in the home and pursue it outside. It shall be well with you.

Posted July 2, 2012 by 4thlink in Uncategorized

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