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Marital Costs   Leave a comment

     I had the grace to listen to an interview granted a journalist by a widow on a radio station in Nigeria on Saturday September 24, 2016. During the period, the young interviewer wanted to know about how the widow met her late husband who was an artist who was interested in protecting his tribal culture.

     According to the woman, she was a young lady who was ready for anything “fashion” from any society in the world. She was not ready to compromise her young lady’s lifestyle.

     On the commencement of his love relationship with the young man, he told her, “You cannot dress anyhow. You cannot embrace any mode of dressing, from any part of the world. My artistic work centers on protection of our own culture. You cannot dress to contradict what we stand to protect. You have to adjust where necessary.

     The woman said it was painful for her but because of the love she had for the man and what he stood for, she purposed to do away with her lifestyle to fit into his life and what he stood for.

     This woman was able to enter into the man’s heart without any reservation(s). the man became one with her. He did not hide anything for her. This helps the woman to continue the man’s art-work after his demise thirty years ago.

     I was impressed with the woman’s stories. All that she said contradicts what I have heard from some women in recent times.

     What can this be?

     Many women have complained that the beginning of their love relationship with their husbands was rosy and something to be proud of. However, along the line, things started to fall apart and the centre of their love affairs cannot hold.

     One question such women, and those who have the same dwindling love relationship, do not ask themselves is “What has this relationship cost me?” it is one easy thing to complain about your partner in love but very difficult to do a heart-search of yourself and this is very important. Certain women (and men) in love, have the erroneous believe that they are the ones to be loved, no matter their past lifestyle. They have no reason to bring in a positive change for the sake of the love they are into. Loving is a two-way affair. If someone sincerely loves you, the best thing to do is to love him (or her) in return.

     Every marriage has costs. If yours does not cost you anything, your love for your partner is in doubt. I don’t think it is even wrong to tag yourself as “an opportunist” ready to exploit whoever is in love  with you.

     Do not be an exploiter!

     Let me briefly share with you the testimony of a young woman.
     This sister is re-married to another man. According to her, her immediate past lifestyle was excellently rough. She has these to say,
     “I thank God that I am now married to my current husband. God has used him to put an end to previous lifestyle that may have swallowed me up. I really thank the Lord.”

     Do you believe that you can have a positive testimony better than this? Do not be too rigid in doing what is not good. Do not be wise in your own eyes. Consider the words of your partner. See reasons with him or her. You may not know now, it will be to your own advantages and it will enhance your relationship.
     Stay blessed and prepared for the second coming of the Lord Jesus Christ.
All Scriptures quoted are from New King James Version of the Holy Bible.


Posted August 25, 2017 by 4thlink in For All

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Race And Grace   Leave a comment

   If man runs with men,  its called RACE, but when he runs with God, it is called GRACE.  Grace keeps Us from Disgrace.

   May God’s GRACE be sufficient for you and your household today  and beyond In Jesus Name.

   No matter how overloaded a bus is, the driver’s seat is always reserved. I pray very fervently that no one shall take your rightful position in your household in Jesus Name. Can you say a loud “Amen!”?

Posted May 29, 2017 by 4thlink in Monthly Family Prayer.

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You Can Be A Happy Woman   Leave a comment

On May 22, 2015, a woman Minister of God referred to men as containers bought by a woman whose contents are not known at the time of purchase. On arrival at home, opening of the containers reaveal the true contents. She said some women found beverages in their containers. Some women found sand in theirs; while many women found granite. Discoveries of women after marriage differ in respect of the true contents of their men.

This is true.

Are you surprised? I don’t know if you will agree with me that there is no one formula for marrriage. What do I mean? Each marriage has what will make it work. Thank God, the Scriptures has the formulae for ALL MARRRIAGES as revealed by the Holy Spirit. For a marriage to be successful calls for hard work.

You must work hard to make your marrriage a success.

Do you believe that each content of every container has its use and value? Do you agree that each has its chains of benefits? To derive any benefit from the contents of a container calls for diligence.

For instance, from the sister’s analogy, if you find beverages in your container, you need to take certain steps to derive maximum benefits from it. You need to prepare it before taking it. At this point, I don’t want to burden you with the steps you will take but think for a few minutes on “If I receive a tin of beverages, how do I take it? What steps will I take?”.

Those who find lemon in their containers do not need to go about complaining to whoever care to listen about their findings. They need to sit down and think deeply on how to make the best use of it. Any woman who found lemon in her containers can easily make lemonade out of them. She can enjoy this with others.

The functions of beverages is entirely different from that of lemon. Yet, both are of value to their owners. Do you understand this?

That is why “A happy woman is not the one who married the best man, it is the woman who makes the best of the one she married.” is a supporter of what the woman Minister said as quoted earlier.

Do you know how you can make the best out of your man? There is a key disclosed in Proverbs 14:1?
“The wise woman builds her house,
But the foolish pulls it down with her hands.”
You need wisdom to make the best use of the contents of your man. WISDOM! It is the principal thing.

Relying on force, murmuring, complaining, strong attacks, craftiness and other flesh based devices cannot be of any positive help to you but wisdom.

How do you acquire the required wisdom to handle your man? James 1:5 teaches that, “If any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask God who gives to all liberally and without reproach, and it will be given to him.”

Do you want to be happy in your home? Searching again for “an ideal man” is not the next line of action but asking God for the wisdom to turn your man to the “Ideal Man” you desire. Who knows? Your getting married to your man may be the beginning of your ministry or it may be your major ministry for which you will receive fron the Lord,
“Well done, good and faithful servant; …enter into the joy of your Lord.”
Stay blessed abduction rapturable because the Lord is coming.
Scriptures quoted are from New King James Version.

Two Keys To A Sure Promotion   Leave a comment

Promotion is very important in the life of people. To remain on the same level for long is not a thing to be desired in that it becomes a routine and boring. It does not even bring honor and glory.

There is nothing to celebrate in stagnation.

If you are promoted, your life will improve and it will bring along with it honor and glory.

One sure thing is that promotion does not come on a platter of gold. There are conditions that attract it. If you meet them, promotion will surely come your way. To save time and space, let me put them into two questions.

Question One.
What do you work for?
I read a story many years ago that can help you to answer the above question and make necessary changes.

Now, the story.

Two Gardners were employed on the same day in the same corporation. Twenty years after, one of them, named “B”, became the Chief Executive Officer of that Corporation.

It was “A” who narrated the story; he was still working as a Gardner in that same place of work.

When his interviewer asked him the reasons for the promotion of “B” and his remaining as a Gardner . His reply was,
” “B” worked for the corporation but I worked for my pay (wages) only. ”

Can you picture any difference between the two? Did “B” deserve his promotion? Did “A” deserve remaining on the same level?

Which one do you want, promotion or stagnation?

If you are the type who work for the money or gain, you are an hindrance to your own promotion. What do you want after your pay? Then, you must pay for it.

Every corporation will pay attention to any employee who work for it because such staff member loves his employer and seeks her welfare. Such employer will look for opportunities to compensate a worker with hardwork.

A common complaint of a lazy or stagnant worker is “What is my salary or wages?” Or “What am I earning? The working hours are over, I cannot work any extra hours except they can convert it to cash.”

These and other such complaints come from him. No wonder many workers agitate always for “a pay rise”. A question that should be asked is “Do they deserve it?”

I am not against any demand for a pay increase. Certain employers are exploiters. They never think of compensating hardworking staff. Workers should agitate for their entitlements.

To be promoted, work hard for your employers and seek their good.

Question two.
Who do you work for?
Besides what you work for, you must iron out “who you work for”. What am I saying? You must answer the question, are you working for man or the Lord?

To work for man is to receive your rewards from man. You must note that man is limited, his resources are finite. His power is limited. Man also can easily forget your past and current good deeds. He may even appreciate them but lacks the means of rewarding you accordingly.

On the other hand, if you work in any capacity for the Lord, you stand a great chance to gain what you never planned or expected.


Read what the Scriptures reveal about the Lord,
“The earth is the Lord’s, and the fullness thereof ; the world, and they that dwell therein.
Now unto him that is able to do exceeding abundantly above all that we ask or think, according to the power that worketh in us.” Psalm 24:1; Ephesians 3:20.

When you work for the Lord, you will have rest of mind. Your work becomes stress free. You will experience peace of God.

Register this in your heart as the Scriptures confirms,
“It is vain for you to rise up early to sit up late, to eat the bread of sorrows:
For so he giveth his beloved sleep.” Psalm 127:2.

Note that what obtains as an employee holds as a self-employed man. Be more interested in making a good name than in making money. Your goodwill will attract cash, sooner or later.

Do you desire promotion from the Lord? Do you want Him to elevate you? Now and forever, do everything “…as unto the Lord,” and He will surely reward you with great promotions you never think of.
Stay blessed and rapturable, the Lord is coming soon.

Seven Dangers Involved In Immaturity Before Marriage.   Leave a comment

What marrriage has become is not what God planned it to be. So many factors have defaced and outrightly changed it. One of such factors is IMMATURITY. In brief , let us discuss SEVEN DANGERS involved in this.

ONE: Sudden death.
There are cases of sudden death resulting from immaturity in marrriage. This cut across races and culture. Husband have shot their wives dead over trivialities that saturate marrriages; wives have piosoned their own husbands because of unsubstantiated suspicions.

The list is endless!

TWO: Divorce. Divorce has become an “easy option” today. This has taken place on any flimsy excuse that have been balooned in the court of law. The facts presented before judges have been enlarged out of proportion; so judges have no choices but to dissolve many marriages.

Whereas, maturity before marrriage would have saved many.

“For the Lord God of Israel says
That He hates divorce…” Malachi 2:16 a-b. New King James Version.

Do you want to involve yourself in what God hate?.

Watch it!

This is seen by many people as a “better option” to divorce. For many reasons people prefer separation to divorce.

To cover up, they will appear “as if” they are husband and wife when “love” has ceased to exist. In this case, depending on ages of the children , and other factors, they “share” the children.

Late october 2014, I heard a story of a couple who live under one roof but never see each other’s face. They have partitioned the house very well that they cannot see or meet each other.

When their children are on holiday from school, for a month, these children will spend two weeks with the mother in her “apartment” while the other two weeks will be spent with their father.

In another family, they did not talk together. They write on paper anything they wanted to say.

The wife would write, “Your food is ready, take it in the kitchen.”

“I have put money on the dinning table to buy foodstuffs for the month” the husband would write.

Is this good?

Five: – A SAD LIFE.
The initial plan of God to institute marrriage is for both man and woman to live joyfully. Joy has eluded many homes today. There are couples today who live together BUT without JOY. They easily “see” their plight as “my cross”. So, the husband becomes “a cross” to carry for the wife and vice versa.

This ought not to be so.

A man of God on a wedding day narrated his experience with a couple. They were neighbours. The husband went to the man of God when meditating in the word of God one day. He explained that things have gone wrong in his home for years now.

The man of God was surprised because they always go out together wearing the same type of clothes, shoes, and so on. Young men and women used to pray for their kind of home, not knowing what is going on.

The man if God pointed to this but the man replied,
“Our clothes, shoes are always uniform but our lives are not as people see us. Love is lost!”
Immaturity abhors this danger.

Please, bear with me, read the concluding part in the next piece.

Posted January 14, 2015 by 4thlink in For All

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Are You Married To A Man Or…?   Leave a comment

To start with, I sincerely apologize for not updating this blog for sometime now. The Spirit was willing but the flesh was weak. Please, remember me in your prayers. There are interesting topics I love to share with you. I have now resumed, the Holy Spirit will help me to meet you here at least once a week.

Let us begin with this:

Are You Married To A Man Or..?

“Sometimes, when you see how caring another woman’s husband is, you may be tempted to poison your own.”

This was a frightening statement from a woman in August 2014. I never expected a statement like this from her.


She is an attendee in her church programs. She appears as a Christian by all standards.

This woman became ill and her friend’s husband, a medical practitioner took care of her. This man used to call her to know her state of her health regularly. She received one of such calls when she came to me for counselling. After the call, she made that statement.

At that point, I remembered the conversations between Jesus Christ and a Samarian woman near Jacob’s well in John Chapter four.

Jesus said, “Go, call your husband and come here.”
She answered,”I have no husband.”

“You have well said, ‘I have no husband’ for you have had five husbands, and the one whom you now have is not your husband; in that you spoke truly.” John 4:16-18.

Now can the woman who said “one may be tempted to poison one’s husband” be said to be married to the man for whom she has five children?

Now let me mention seven reasons (among others) a woman may settle for a man to live with and not a husband.

Death of a woman’s loved husband may rob her of her future joy from a new home. She may permanently close the door of her heart to avoid another wound.

The two daughters of Lot agreed that “There is no man on earth”.
This is a common mistake whereas God has alternatives.

Divorce is another factor that can make a woman to live with a man who is not her husband. A disappointed woman may decide wrongly not to love any man again “to be on the safe side”. Yet she may live with a man for the sake of living together only.

Past waywardness for which a woman now pays the penalty. What do I mean? Many women have lost those who really loved them elope with a man in money or position.
Many are later abandoned to care for themselves. At this point, they go for “the next available” man and settle with same.

Childlessness that leads to a change of husband. When a woman is too anxious to have children, she may move from one man to another.
At the end of the day, she may live the rest of her life with a man who is not her husband.

In certain cultures and religions, forced marrriage takes place. A father or mother may give his/her daughter to a man as wife against her will.

No matter what she is given materially, she will not be satisfied. As an “obedient” child, she may live with the man whereas she married him against her will.

Another thing is she may leave the man to live with another next available man to protest her forced marrriage.

Covetousness is another factor that can lead a woman to live with a man who is not her husband. This happens when a woman cannot tame her needs/wants, especially if she loves money and other material things.
A woman can therefore live with a man for material gains when they are not husband and wife.

Marrriage through deceit is another factor that can make a woman to live with a man who is not her husband. If a woman is lured into marrriage, she may opt to stay with the man.

The missing core issue in this matter is LOVE. This is the key factor that establishes a man and a woman as husband and wife.

However, no matter your circumstances, you must not fail to demonstrate God’s love to your fellow man. Not only this, you have no right to claim another man’s life. It is a sin against God and humanity.
Turn to your God… Pray to Him. Tell Him to heal you of all wounds and to give you His better alternative. You should be ready to cooperate and accept His new provisions.
Stay blessed and rapturable because the Lord is coming soon.

Posted December 5, 2014 by 4thlink in For Mummy

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A Food For Thought   Leave a comment

A man came back from church on a Sunday afternoon and lifted his wife up.

The wife said, “Honey, this is a new one; you haven’t done this before. This shows you love me.”

The man replied, “Our Pastor said we should lift our problems to God.”

Please, is this true (of you)?

Posted August 11, 2013 by 4thlink in For Women

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