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Please, Report Yourself   Leave a comment

What will you do to someone who hurt you directly or indirectly but came to tell you of his wrongdoing?

This was the case of a grandson in May, 2015. He went to draw water from a nearby well. On his way home, the bucket he use was broken and it was the main container that could be used for such assignments. When he saw this had happened, he came to tell me to guide him on how to deal with the situation because his grandfather will not take it lightly. He was good at giving out disciplinary measures and will not hesitate to melt out some corrective measures to him. He feared what may be the weight of such measures.

I advised him to report himself to grandpa before he knows that the bucket has been broken from another source.

The young man was reluctant to do this because he wanted me to go with him to plead his case before the old man. For many reasons, I informed him that I will come in but he should report himself to explain what happened first.

The young man failed to act immediately but instead went about the premises wearing gloomy looks. He was not happy and went about sluggishly. He became a shadow of himself; everyone who saw him asked what happened to him but said nothing.

Later, I saw him and inquired if he had reported to grandpa so that I could carry out a follow-up on the matter to erase any other negative issue that may want to ensue. After I confirmed he did not act as directed I encouraged him to go but I stayed nearby to know how the matter would go but the old man did not know I was near.

The young man went.

I overheard him explaining how everything happened. Grandpa patiently listened to his story. After, I heard the the old man shouting on the young man accusing him of being too playful. He saw this as the reason for breaking the utility bucket.

Do you know what? He only warned him to prevent such happening in the future. The young man prostrated as a mark of respect for grandpa. This was according to their culture. No corrective measure was melted out to him.

A few minutes later, I appeared before grandpa who told me what happened and I also pacified him assuring him that there will not be a repeat of such act in that he may have learned his lessons.

The matter was laid to rest and their relationship continued to flourish.

Now, do you know that doing a wrong has its serious sting which troubles the wrongdoer? When it happened to Adam and Eve in the garden of Eden, both went to hide themselves “away” from their Lover who went about to seek them until He found them.

How would the story be if they had reported themselves?

Do you also report yourself to God when you do a wrong? Anytime you disobey Him, He reserved the right to chastise you as your Loving Father.

There are four common reactions to a wrongdoing but one is best:
1. You may attempt to cover the wrongdoing.
2. You may shift blame on someone else.
3. You may go about “mourning” the evil act. Grave consequences may result from bearing the guilt.
4. Go to God and report your wrong action knowing well that you are guilty.


“The sacrifice you(God) desire is a broken spirit.
You will not reject a broken and repentant heart,
O God.” Psalm 51:17. NLT.
When you sin and regret it, go to the Lord with your sad countenance to report yourself.

When the Psalmist observed that he was a talkative, he regretted it and went to report himself to the Lord and sought His help:
“Take control of what I say, O Lord,
and guard my lips.
Don’t let me drift toward evil
or take part in acts of wickedness .
Don’t let me share in the delicacies of
those who do wrong.” Psalm 141:3-4. NLT.

Are you a member of God’s family? If yes, then do not hesitate to report yourself to Him when you do wrong and seek His help. Do not go around with a guilty heart when your father is ready to abundantly pardon you.

How often do you report yourself? As many times as you go astray! Note that your self report must not be on the same wrong act. Pray to please the Lord all the time.
Stay blessed and rapturable because the Lord is coming soon.
NLT is New Living Translation.


How To Please Your Husband At All Costs   Leave a comment

“There is a difference between a wife and a virgin.
The unmarried woman cares about the things of the Lord, that she may be holy both in body and in spirit.
But she who is married cares about the things of the world- how she may please her husband” 1 Corinthians 7:34.

The truth about every relationship is that you must sow what you want to reap. Every woman with a sound mind will appreciate a caring husband. Therefore, if you, as a woman, want to be cared for by your man, please, you must be caring too.
If your belief is that it is YOU only who must be cared for, your unknown name until now is “Love Exploiter”.

This is recorded about a woman like you,
“Who can find a virtuous wife?
For her worth is far above rubbies,
The heart of her husband safely trusts her;
So he will have no lack of gain.
She does him good and not evil
All the days of her life.” Proverbs 31:10-12. Nkjv.

That is a woman who pleased her husband in her own time.

One thing to note about the husband of this woman is that it is not on record that he had any inordinate ambitions or that he was covetous. So he could be pleased without any wrongdoing.

This was the undoing of a queen and a king in ancient Israel. Their names were king Ahab and queen Jezebel.

Jezebel really loved her husband and would not hesitate to do anything to please him. However, this king over God’s people was not satisfied with what he had. He was after the property of another man, Naboth, so he approached him,
“Give me your vineyard, that I may have it for a vegetable garden, because it is near, next to my house; for it I will give you a vineyard better than it. Or if it seems good to you, I will give you its worth in money.” 1 Kings 21:2.

Naboth, however, refused to grant that request to preserve his “father’s inheritance”.

King Ahab went home disappointed; he could not think of the next line of action .

When Qeen Jezebel heard, because she hated to see her man wearing a sad countenance, so she encouraged him,
“You exercise authority over Israel! Arise, eat food, and let your heart be cheerful, I will give you the vineyard of Naboth the Jezreelite.” 1 Kings 21:7.

As an extremist who wanted to please her husband, she went to arrange how Naboth would be eliminated using her authority as a queen. The murder arrangement was effectively carried out because he was killed by the queen’s agents.

Then the King took over the vineyard of the dead man.

What was the final judgment over the couple? Prophet Elijah revealed the heart of God thus,
“Have you murdered and taken possession?
Thus says the Lord: ‘ In the place where dogs licked the blood of Naboth, dogs shall lick your blood even yours.
The dogs shall eat Jezebel by the wall of Jezreel.’ ” 1 Kings 21:19, 23. Nkjv.

That was the end of those couple. One could not help the other on the day of reckoning.

As much as you must be loving, caring and please your man, do not forget that you are responsible to a higher authority. There are so many ways to please your man without killing, wounding, stealing or doing any wrong; exploit them.

Do not heap up guilt and condemnation! You will give account of all your thoughts, words and deeds to your Maker, who alone can kill and make alive. Will you not fear Him? Care for your man in a way that you will not sin against God.

Stay blessed and rapturable ; the Lord is coming soon.
Scriptures quoted are from New King James Version of the Holy Bible.

Posted April 4, 2015 by 4thlink in For Mummy

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How To Please Your Wife At All Costs   Leave a comment

“But I want you to be without care.
He who is unmarried cares for the things of the Lord- how he may please the Lord.
But he who is married cares about the things of the world- how he may please his wife.” 1 Corinthians 7:32-33.

A common desire of every female, irrespective of her age, is to have a “caring husband”. This is good and worthy of being desired. Any responsible married man must be caring. Any man who is not ready to do this is not prepared to be married.

The Lord made it a law of relationship to His people, Isreal of old, in Exodus 20:10,
“…he shall not diminish her food, her clothing, and her marrriage rights.” New King James Version.

Every matured man (read my article “Am I matured for marrriage?”) must be ready to care for his wife and children in obedience to the Lord.

To be caring is a direct product of love that a man has for his wife. It is true that hardly will one cares for what one does not love. What you do not love, you will not value and will not enjoy your care.

It is important to note that love between couples emanate ONLY from the love they have for the Lord, their Lord. This is LOVE INDEED. Any type that has its offshoot from another source is either lust or evil desire. This will not last for long and its end is disaster.

Now, does pleasing your wife entail doing so AT ALL COST?

No gainsaying the fact that Father Abraham was a lover of his wife, Mother Sarah. The woman was barren for a long period of time. It was sure that the man was not happy at this. He wanted to please his wife but to give a child is beyond his power.

One day, his wife came up with a “good idea” that she hoped would bring some form of happiness into her heart. She then demanded from her husband,
“See now, the Lord has restrained me from bearing children.
Please, go in to my maid; perhaps I shall obtain children by her.” Genesis 16:2 .

Father Abraham, as a caring husband who wanted to please his wife welcomed the “good idea”; so, “…he went in to Hagar, and she conceived…” verse 4.

Within the household, this singular action bred animosity; it also exhibited the imperfect heart of Father Abraham towards his friend, God because the “good idea” was not God’s idea.

Immediately after the going in and conception, the Almighty God complained to him,
“I am Almighty God, walk before Me and be blameless.” Genesis 17:1. New King James Version.

God had purposed to multiply the couple in HIS OWN WAY and TIME. He said to Abraham,
“As for Sarai your wife, you shall not call her name Sarai, but Sarah shall be her name.
And I will bless her and also give you a son by her; then I will bless her, she shall be a mother of nations;
kings of people shall be from her.” Genesis 17:15-16.

At the end of the day, God’s plan came to pass fully.

Do you know that Abraham’s attempt to please his wife created a lasting problem until today? The product (Ishmael) of Abraham and Hagar, the Egyptian maid had this destiny:
“He shall be a wild man,
his hand shall be against every man,
And every man’s hand against him.
And he shall dwell in the presence of all his brethren” Genesis 16:12.

Until now, there are hot spots and restless areas in the world today and certain groups are causing troubles in nations just because sometime ago, a man wanted to please his wife.

It is right and needful to desire and determine to please your wife but do not forget that you must consider it very well if what your wife wants from you will surely, not perhaps, bring her desired joy. Will it also ensure your rightful place before the Almighty God is not shaking?

Finally, will it not bring others into trouble now or in future?
Therefore, consider very well whether or not you must please your wife at all costs.
Stay blessed and rapturable; the Lord is coming soon.

Posted March 29, 2015 by 4thlink in For Daddy

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Please, Be Available!   2 comments

In this piece, I intentionally want to appeal to you to make yourself available for the peace and protection of your home. Please, make sure that you are always available in person or at least by ‘proxy’.
Just ensure that you create an avenue that provides room to gather sufficient information about the welfare of your own household. Ensure that you have enough information to drive the enemies away from your territory to be sure of peace in your home.
Unavilability of many wives had sold their once beloved husband to their best friends or housemaids. The same is true of many men. Unavailability has turned them to ‘exes’.
During the course of writing this piece, I was informed of a ‘Bitter Switch Over’. What does this mean?
A woman, who would not be availabe at home until 10:00pm because of her trade, lost her husband to her best friend who lived nearby.
That woman,many times, will be preparing dinner for her family up to 12:00am. Is that proper?
It was the new madam that was ‘helping’ her friend to feed the husband who could not wait long enough. The best friend ‘helped’ her friend to the extent that her (the first wife) services was no longer needed in the home.
What pre-occupies many married people is pursuit of money. They love money to the extent that their homes are sacrificed. After they acquired sufficient money or wealth, they realise that a vacuum has been created, many times impossible to fill.
Read this about negligent angels in Jude 1:6,
“And the angels who did not keep their proper domain (estate),but left their own abode, He has reserved in everlasting chains under darkness for the judgment of the great day…” New King James Version).
If angels were not forgiven of their sin of negligence, do you think that you will be spared? No excuse will be acceptable no matter how “good” it may seem. Do not fail to keep (be available to protect) your God given domain, your home so that you will not be “reserved in everlasting chains under darkness”.
May condemnation not be your portion in Jesus Name. Many people today are licking their matrimonial wounds because of their unavailability when it mattered. The losses are always just irreparable! May you never suffer losses, but be available!
The information at your disposal will prepare you to protect your “first estate”. May you not be reserved in everlasting agony and pain in Jesus Name. Once again, I plead with you, “Please, Be Available!”

Posted July 23, 2012 by 4thlink in For All

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