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When it comes to giving,many married people are generous to everybody except their spouses​. There are seven things you should give your spouse daily. This are not weekly , monthly or annual giving. They are things you must give your spouse daily. Let’s see them:.

1. Give your spouse a touch: One of the ways to bond with your spouse is to give him or her a touch. We have encouragement touch, affirmation touch, healing touch, apology touch, and we have sexual touch. Study your partners and know what touch to give at a particular time. If you want God to touch your marriage, touch your spouse. Don’t let today go like that without touching your partner.

2. Give your spouse a Space: As much as you need to bond with your spouse and be together for daily intimacy, communication, affection, planning, etc ,yet, you still need to give your spouse his /her space. There is time for couples  prayers, time for couples bonding. Also there is time for personal prayer, personal meditation, personal rest, personal planing, etc. Don’t choke  your spouse. Don’t be over- possessive and over demanding to your spouse. Stop unnecessary policing and monitoring. Give your spouse a space they need when they need it. 

3: Give your spouse a call/ chat: Some people can chat with all the contacts on their phones & all the friends on their friends list on Facebook. But they will never chat or call their spouse throughout​ the day. Chatting or calling your spouse in a day at work is a way of saying, ‘Dear, despite my busy schedule, I have you in mind. I am thinking about you’. Make sure you send a chat, or give a call to your spouse today. Make it a daily thing. No body can be tired of receiving a caring chat or a call from someone they love. 

4: Give your spouse a Hug: Hugging is fast disappearing in many marriages today. It has been researched that, hugging is one of the emotional needs of every human being. It is scarcity of spousal hug that makes many men to hug ladies who are not their wives indiscriminately. Many women too crave for hugs and they allow every Tom and Jerry to hug them because their husbands are not giving them hug. It might be in the morning, or at night, let no day pass without hugging your spouse. It is one valuable thing you must give your spouse. It could be a welcoming hug, a goodbye hug, an appreciating hug, affirmative hug. Hugging is a non verbal means of communication. Use it well. Don’t let your husband or wife crave for hug from strangers when you are still alive. Hug passionately! Hug romantically. 

5. Give your spouse a smile: God smiles on a home when couples smile at each other. A smile is a way of telling your spouse, ‘You delight me’, ‘Your presence amuses me’, ‘I am pleased with you’. Frowning at your spouse is not a thing that should last a whole day. One of the way to know your marriage is SMELLING is when you are not SMILING with each other. Smile. It is one of the best gifts you can give your spouse in a day. I love to smile alot and I love to see my Queen smile. I don’t like people who are not generous with their smile. It is free. You don’t need to pay to smile. Just relax your muscles and smile. Couples, smile , keep smiling! To prevent your marriage from smelling, keep smiling with your spouse.

6: Give your spouse Peace of mind: The home is the end-point of every thing we do daily. Let me explain it this way. If you are a doctor, you can’t sleep in the hospital all the days of your life. You will need to come home. If you are an engineer, you can’t sleep in the site all days. If you are a lawyer, you can’t sleep in the bar all days. Even as a pastor, you can’t be in the Church 24/7. We all must go back home. Home is the end point. So, if your spouse will be excited to come home, it must be a peaceful home. Stop nagging, fighting, insulting, abusing , threatening, and humiliating your spouse. Give him rest of mind. Give your wife rest of mind. Be the head of your wife sir, not the headache of your wife. Madam, be a wife , and not a ‘knife’ to your husband. Blessed are the couples that give each other peace of mind daily!  

7: Give your spouse a prayer : No matter how wealthy or highly connected you are, there are things you can not do for your spouse. You are limited. One of the ways to show love to your spouse is to commit him/her to the unlimited God. Say a word of prayer to your spouse daily. Every other things may fail and may not work. But no force can withstand  the power of prayer. You can’t heal your spouse, only God can heal him/her. You can lengthen the days of your spouse. Only God can do that. You can’t save your spouse. You can’t take away addiction and evil habits from your spouse , only God can do that for him/her. Pray to God. Mention the name of your husband/wife to God. As a man, you are the priest of your family, lay your hands on your wife, or hold her hands and say a word of prayer to her life. It is a major gift many couples find so difficult to give each other. Blessed is that wife whose husband gives a gift of prayer daily. (Visevisa). 
Pray for your spouse if you don’t want him/her to become a prey in the hand of the devil. 

All this seven things you must give your spouse daily are very easy, simple, free and important. Put them on your ‘to-do-list’. Don’t forget to give it. Remember, givers never lack. If you give your spouse all these, I can assure you that, there is a high assurance that you will get it back. 

I love your marriage. The joy of your family is my priority. 

Share to bless a family. Share, don’t plagarise it. 

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© Ebenezer Diyaolu


Posted June 4, 2017 by 4thlink in For All

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How To Position Yourself For God’s Sure Mercies.   Leave a comment

“…and I will be gracious to whom I will be gracious, and I will shew mercy on whom I will show mercy.” Exodus 33: 19c. KJV.

This was God’s declaration to Prophet Moses. The Lord has the exclusive right to do this. After all, He is the Owner of ALL things. This is what He planned to do when it comes to special mercy. The question now is, “How do you position yourself for God’s sure mercy?”

To receive God’s sure mercy, a lot depends on you.

One. If you want to eat orange, you need to walk close to the owner of oranges. God owns mercy and shows it to those He purposed to show it. The first thing to do is to have a good rapport with Him. Your relationship with Him will determine what He will do to you.

For instance, as a child of God, if you please Him, He will not deny you of your need. He will satisfy you as His child. No one can stop Him from doing this. The Scriptures says this about Moses:
“Now the man Moses was very meek, above all the men which are on the face of the earth.” Numbers 12:3.

Can the above be said about you? Do you have a humble heart? Before God and man, let your meekness be seen. The Lord will not hesitate to show His mercy to the humble.

Therefore, have a smooth relationship with Him and walk in meekness before Him.

Two. You must be merciful. Show mercy to others if you want God to show you His own mercy. He told Moses that He “will show mercy on whom I will show mercy,”; I think the first on the list of who will receive mercy is those who show mercies. After all, sowing is reaping.

Begin to demonstrate God’s mercy today!

“Be not deceived: God is not mocked; for whatsoever a man soweth, that shall he also reap.” Galatians6:7.

The Lord Jesus also assured in Matthew 5:7,
“Blessed are the merciful for they shall obtain mercy.”

Three. There are steps to take. You need to take certain steps. For instance, a common reference to mercy of God is that of a malefactor who was nailed to the cross at the same time with Jesus Christ. He received a last minute mercy on the cross. It is noteworthy that the armed robber positioned himself for the mercy of the Lord.

How did he do this?

He was not the only one nailed to the cross with Jesus. His partner in crime was there also. His fellow criminal was railing on Jesus with,
“If thou be Christ, save thyself and us.” Luke 23:39.

The one who received mercy did not do this. What were his steps?

*He rebuked the first one for not fearing God because he insulted Jesus Christ;

*He confessed his sins because he admitted that he received the right reward (dying on the cross) for his wrongdoing.

*He also testified that Jesus had done nothing deserving death on the cross. He witnessed to sinless life of Jesus Christ.

*He recognized Jesus as “the Lord” and confessed Him to be so.

*He then directed his request to the Lord on the cross when he said,
“Lord, remember me when thou comest into thy kingdom.” Luke 23:40-43.

He was with Christ in Paradise on that day.

Have you also taken (or do you take) the above and other steps a God-fearing person should take?

It is never too late. Begin today.

Four. Have something good. It is very important to have “something good” in you that can attract God’s mercy.

Jeroboam was given ten of the twelve tribes in Israel to be their king.
Because he did evil before God, so, He pronounced judgment on him and his house. However, one of his children obtained mercy. He was the only one in Jeroboam’s house who died, was mourned and buried.

Prophet Ahijah said to Jeroboam’s wife who went to inquire of the Lord,
“…the child shall die.
And all Israel shall mourn for him, and bury him:
for he only of Jeroboam shall come to the grave, because in him there is found some good thing toward the Lord God of Israel in the house of Jeroboam.” 1 Kings 14:12-13.

Do you also have something good in you toward God? Let your heart be occupied with good things toward the Lord and you will position yourself for God’s sure mercy.
Stay blessed and rapturable because the Lord is coming soon.

A Question To Answer   Leave a comment

Have you at any time considered answering this question, “How will my home be if everyone behaves like me?”

It is never too late. Answer the question sincerely. Improve your conduct where necessary for peace to reign in your home.

Posted December 23, 2014 by 4thlink in For All

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Are You Connected with Him?   Leave a comment

“And one of the elders saith unto me, ‘Weep not, behold, the Lion from the tribe of Judah, the Root of David, hath prevailed to open the book, and to loose the seven seals thereof.’ ” (Revelation 5:5).

Huh, do you know that your life, (including your home), and destiny can be revealed to high favor?

You can also be established and grow to become an institution.

The power in His Blood can move you and your home forward with greater speed and protect you, and all that are yours,

Who is He?

He is Jesus Christ. He loves you and wants to give you the above and many other good things here and hereafter.

Love Him and abide in His love and commandments forever!

Posted October 3, 2013 by 4thlink in For All

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Love Is A Bird 2   Leave a comment

In the last article, we discussed love as a bird. It was pointed out that a bird with one wing is weak; it cannot fly and can easily be killed.

So was it with Samson!

Samson was deeply in love with Delilah but the woman was not in love whatsoever. Her frequent demand was “I know you do not love me. If you love me, tell me where your great power is.”

The man wanted to convince her of his true love; he told her!

What followed? Samson was sold into the hand of his enemies who removed his eyes and tortured him. Read details in The Book of Judges, chapter 16.

Do you want more love from your spouse? Show more love to him/her!

Posted August 1, 2013 by 4thlink in For All

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You Are The Main Factor   Leave a comment

Beloved, what you recognise in your thinking, you energise in your feelings, and what you energise in your feelings you realise in your life experience.

Therefore, think favor, blessing, breakthrough, lifting, promotion and other good things, especially for your home.

Posted June 22, 2013 by 4thlink in For All

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A Question To Answer   Leave a comment

Have you at any time considered answering this question, “How will my home be if everyone behaves like me?”

It is never too late. Answer the question sincerely. Improve your conduct where necessary for peace to reign in your home.

Posted June 9, 2013 by 4thlink in For All

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