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When it comes to giving,many married people are generous to everybody except their spouses​. There are seven things you should give your spouse daily. This are not weekly , monthly or annual giving. They are things you must give your spouse daily. Let’s see them:.

1. Give your spouse a touch: One of the ways to bond with your spouse is to give him or her a touch. We have encouragement touch, affirmation touch, healing touch, apology touch, and we have sexual touch. Study your partners and know what touch to give at a particular time. If you want God to touch your marriage, touch your spouse. Don’t let today go like that without touching your partner.

2. Give your spouse a Space: As much as you need to bond with your spouse and be together for daily intimacy, communication, affection, planning, etc ,yet, you still need to give your spouse his /her space. There is time for couples  prayers, time for couples bonding. Also there is time for personal prayer, personal meditation, personal rest, personal planing, etc. Don’t choke  your spouse. Don’t be over- possessive and over demanding to your spouse. Stop unnecessary policing and monitoring. Give your spouse a space they need when they need it. 

3: Give your spouse a call/ chat: Some people can chat with all the contacts on their phones & all the friends on their friends list on Facebook. But they will never chat or call their spouse throughout​ the day. Chatting or calling your spouse in a day at work is a way of saying, ‘Dear, despite my busy schedule, I have you in mind. I am thinking about you’. Make sure you send a chat, or give a call to your spouse today. Make it a daily thing. No body can be tired of receiving a caring chat or a call from someone they love. 

4: Give your spouse a Hug: Hugging is fast disappearing in many marriages today. It has been researched that, hugging is one of the emotional needs of every human being. It is scarcity of spousal hug that makes many men to hug ladies who are not their wives indiscriminately. Many women too crave for hugs and they allow every Tom and Jerry to hug them because their husbands are not giving them hug. It might be in the morning, or at night, let no day pass without hugging your spouse. It is one valuable thing you must give your spouse. It could be a welcoming hug, a goodbye hug, an appreciating hug, affirmative hug. Hugging is a non verbal means of communication. Use it well. Don’t let your husband or wife crave for hug from strangers when you are still alive. Hug passionately! Hug romantically. 

5. Give your spouse a smile: God smiles on a home when couples smile at each other. A smile is a way of telling your spouse, ‘You delight me’, ‘Your presence amuses me’, ‘I am pleased with you’. Frowning at your spouse is not a thing that should last a whole day. One of the way to know your marriage is SMELLING is when you are not SMILING with each other. Smile. It is one of the best gifts you can give your spouse in a day. I love to smile alot and I love to see my Queen smile. I don’t like people who are not generous with their smile. It is free. You don’t need to pay to smile. Just relax your muscles and smile. Couples, smile , keep smiling! To prevent your marriage from smelling, keep smiling with your spouse.

6: Give your spouse Peace of mind: The home is the end-point of every thing we do daily. Let me explain it this way. If you are a doctor, you can’t sleep in the hospital all the days of your life. You will need to come home. If you are an engineer, you can’t sleep in the site all days. If you are a lawyer, you can’t sleep in the bar all days. Even as a pastor, you can’t be in the Church 24/7. We all must go back home. Home is the end point. So, if your spouse will be excited to come home, it must be a peaceful home. Stop nagging, fighting, insulting, abusing , threatening, and humiliating your spouse. Give him rest of mind. Give your wife rest of mind. Be the head of your wife sir, not the headache of your wife. Madam, be a wife , and not a ‘knife’ to your husband. Blessed are the couples that give each other peace of mind daily!  

7: Give your spouse a prayer : No matter how wealthy or highly connected you are, there are things you can not do for your spouse. You are limited. One of the ways to show love to your spouse is to commit him/her to the unlimited God. Say a word of prayer to your spouse daily. Every other things may fail and may not work. But no force can withstand  the power of prayer. You can’t heal your spouse, only God can heal him/her. You can lengthen the days of your spouse. Only God can do that. You can’t save your spouse. You can’t take away addiction and evil habits from your spouse , only God can do that for him/her. Pray to God. Mention the name of your husband/wife to God. As a man, you are the priest of your family, lay your hands on your wife, or hold her hands and say a word of prayer to her life. It is a major gift many couples find so difficult to give each other. Blessed is that wife whose husband gives a gift of prayer daily. (Visevisa). 
Pray for your spouse if you don’t want him/her to become a prey in the hand of the devil. 

All this seven things you must give your spouse daily are very easy, simple, free and important. Put them on your ‘to-do-list’. Don’t forget to give it. Remember, givers never lack. If you give your spouse all these, I can assure you that, there is a high assurance that you will get it back. 

I love your marriage. The joy of your family is my priority. 

Share to bless a family. Share, don’t plagarise it. 

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© Ebenezer Diyaolu


Posted June 4, 2017 by 4thlink in For All

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Can You Love Your Enemies?   Leave a comment

“Love your enemies, do good to those who hate you.” Luke 6:27 NKJV.

The above verse of the Scriptures is a direct and straight forward command from Jesus Christ. Every lover of the Lord must obey ALL His commands without exception. This command of the Lord may look “hard” to obey by Christians but with the help of the Holy Spirit, it can become easy to obey.

One thing I have observed about every command of Jesus Christ is that each has great benefits. To access these benefits calls for following each command to the last letter.

Now, let us examine about five reasons, among others, Jesus commands us to “Love your enemies”.

Peace is sure.
You will be at peace with your God and yourself. Loving your enemies will not allow your relationship with God to be strained. You will not have any hidden root of bitterness in your heart towards anybody. The Lord your God will be pleased with you all the time.

Your heart will also be at peace. You will have no time to brood over what your enemies have done to you and to think about ways of revenge. Your will spend your time on things that are good and pleasing to God.

You will not sow evil.
If you love your enemies, you will not sow an evil seed. Hatred is an evil thing. If you hate your enemies, you will not hesitate to do them evil. If you sow an evil seed, it is sure that you will reap the same.

Therefore, Jesus does not want any evil to befall you that is one reason He command you (and all His followers) to love your enemies. The law remains forever,
“Do not be deceived, God is not mocked; for whatever a man sows, that he will also reap.
For he who sows to his flesh will of the flesh reap corruption, but he who sows to the spirit will of the spirit reap everlasting life.” Galatians 6:7-8 NKJV.

To love your enemies is sowing to the Spirit and you will reap everlasting life.

Love is an effective weapon of conversion.
Jesus Christ is the best pattern Christians can follow. He is a Doer of what He preaches. He lives by example. No believer can claim to love Christ before conversion or salvation. Romans 5:8 reveals to us,
“But God demonstrates His own love toward us, in that while we were still sinners, Christ died for us.”

It was Christ’s love that converted all Christians; so your love can also change your enemies to become your friends. Jesus informs all believers that,
“You are My friends if you do whatever I command you.” John 15:14 NKJV.
Therefore, you can turn enemies into friends if you love them.

Enemies will be at a risk.
You will put your enemies at a great risk. How? Love is a good thing. To love is to do good. In the same vein, to hate is to do evil. If you do good, you are supposed to reap same. If you do evil, you will reap it.

Now, if you do good to your enemies by loving them and they continued to hate you, they are sowing evil and will reap evil. The book of Proverbs 17:13 reveals,
“Whoever rewards evil for good,
Evil will not depart from his house.” NKJV.
Can you see that to “Love your enemies” is a sure weapon to destroy your enemies?

It an evidence or proof.
Are you a child of the Most High God? If you are truly saved, you must take after your Heavenly Father who adopted you by His love that never fails. You nust do whatever He does . Christ instructs,
“But I say to you, love your enemies, bless those who curse you; do good to those who hate you, and pray for those who spitefully use you and persecute you, that you may be sons (daughters) of your Father in heaven; for He makes His sun rise on the evil and on the good, and sends rain on the just and on the unjust.” Matthew 5:44-45.

Do you want to resemble your Father in heaven? Then, love your enemies! This “love your enemies” will aid your being rapturable because you will not have bitterness of heart against anyone. Although you must obey other commands to be worthy to go with the Lord when He comes.

Are you ready for Him? The Lord will come anytime from now. Love your enemies!
Stay blessed and rapturable.

Your Home In February.   Leave a comment

I welcome you and every member of your household to the hope filled month of February.

Every satanic strategy to pull down your home will fail. You will not break or puncture your pot of joy in Jesus Name.

May you and members of your home experience the goodness of God in new dimensions as you move closer to Him in Jesus Name.

Do not fail to tell or remind everybody around you that the Lord is coming soon.
Be prepared to meet Him.

Posted February 2, 2015 by 4thlink in Monthly Family Prayer.

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